👭 Do you filter your friends?
I guess it’s not just me...
We all have friends who inspire us, challenge us, and help us reach our goals. We can count them as part of our building team too =D
But alongside those friends, there are others who drain your energy, fill your brain with unnecessary info and leave you unable to continue working as you planned after meeting them!
While building RunEvr, we’ve introduced quite a few filters. And one of the important ones is the friends filter =D
These days, I interact with very few friends and relatives - mostly those one or two people who genuinely support me throughout this journey.
What's your approach to this?
Do you consider it selfish to filter your social circle?
Or do you also choose your surroundings carefully to protect your energy, keep building and move forward?
Let's discuss!
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Totally agree with this ! When you are busy building something you really need to save your peace and energy>
@_livia_benemond how do you even manage that? like with friends, parents, family, relatives and all that
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Naturally, you will stop seeing some people because your style, hobbies, habits and work may also change.
A good example were my classmates. During high school, they arranged a cottage and went there to drink. When one of the classmates wanted to have this same meeting two years ago, many former classmates refused her, they only agreed to sit outside for a few hours – because they are already in a different phase of life (they have families, children), they work, they are just somewhere else mentally.
It is a part of evolution.
Some people are gone, some people will come.
@busmark_w_nika That has a sad side to it, though...
I like all the filters, concentration, work, and all that.
But I can’t to let my inner naughty child go away =D
So it’s kind of a balance between being a serious, focused professional and still being a curious young one.
@adana sometimes it is sad, but time is limited, and you need to decide what will remain and what will go. If some people align, the journeys will intersect. :)
I'd rather have ''2 real friend'' who support what i'm doing than a big group that desn't get it.
@siqixia Agreed! When I was younger, my grandfather kept telling me that, but I didn’t really get it back then =)
This is not always easy when it comes to family. You can care about someone and still need a les space from them.
@_claudia_lynn yes... when you love your parents so much, but they keep calling you in the middle of a meeting to make sure you’ve eaten that day, that can be the hardest problem to solve =DD
For me, it's not about cutting people off. I just try to give my time to people who understand and support me.
@ibrahim_mustafha were there times when you expected understanding and support from someone close to you but didn’t get that?
For me, it is necessary to set filters for different types of friends. In some cases, some friends can turn into toxic ones, which can affect our own energy and emotions. To stay positive, selectively filtering out friends is a good approach.
@stan_xu1 what do you think, is it possible that we’re the ones the other half of people talk about, saying that we drain their energy? =DDD
Building something from scratch already takes so much mental energy that sometimes even a casual conversation can throw off your entire day 😭 I don’t think filtering your circle means you suddenly think you’re better than anyone. Sometimes your priorities change, and you need people around you who understand that season of your life.
Interesting. As I've been building Alynd I've certainly tightened my circle so that I interact far more with other friends doing the same - building businesses. I don't see that as being selfish it's just this high intensity time where I need the energy that comes from people who get it versus people who are working for someone else.