The art of saying "No" - How did you learn it?

Learning to say "no" is an important skill to have in order to maintain healthy boundaries and take care of yourself. It can be helpful to practice saying "no" in your head, set clear boundaries with others, be assertive when you do say "no," and consider offering an alternative solution if you can't do something that someone has asked of you. Remember that it is okay to say "no" and that you are not obligated to do everything that others ask of you.

Still learning. A very hard thing to apply

I work in the country club industry which pretty much forces the"yes" on you. But I realized that I cannot sacrifice my whole life for work. I began saying no when my life started to disappear. For me, it costs me money everytime I say no, that's the hard part. From the people side, people respect that there is more to life.

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If you are asking me. I haven't yet😥

I was struggling with it too. In my case, a simple exercise worked pretty well. I told myself that my default first answer will be no to all for some time😉 The person who asked me to do something could always convince me to change my mind, and very often my final answer was "yes." However, it was always followed by reasonable discussion and solid arguments from the requester. Most importantly, this trick set up my mind to raise more questions and have a deeper think about request. In my case, the fact that I often agreed to some things was due to a lack of proper thinking about the topic and an automatic „yes” answer. If you give yourself some time to think about the request you are more likely to answer „no”, and if you eventually say „yes” it is usually a thoughtful decision.

In the agency, sometimes we receive too much feedback from clients (Indonesian case, different country different culture) because they didn't notice in early. Here what I learn when saying "No" - Give a small time before saying no - Don't just say "no" only but give them options would be better - Open discussion by saying no + reason

Setting boundaries by learning to say "no" has been one of the best things I've ever done and once you start saying it, it becomes very easy to do