The truth is that it's hard to live in a world that is constantly "under the microscope" of everyone. Work, social media, neighbours, country you come from, new place to live in - everything affects who you are because people give opinions on your work, commitment, products, look, behaviour and unfortunately not everyone will send constructive viewpoint.
"Choose wise," they say. But how do you know what is 'good'?
I think that by giving in to all sorts of trials in your life is one of the ways to learn to say NO. Because you don't have to say NO directly, show it with your actions.
Have opinions, listen, read, talk to mentors - all this gives courage.
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@kinga_gro Really helpful, Kinga! Reading more helps us align things rightly and gives every right reason to say no. Curious to know what are you reading currently :)
@kaushik_vikram_balaji as a huge fan of SF now on the loop is "Gateway" Fredrik Pohl. Masterwork!
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Still learning it :)
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By being taken advantage of to the point where it really bothered me, and over the years, I started to say no.
Its the same scenario on why would a dog sit on a nail, why won't it stand up> It squeecks and cries... Well, because it isn't hurting enough, yet.
And funny thing is, when I started doing that, I actually got more money. I lived at a place which I rented and lived with the owner and I was a guy that would go to the shop many times for free etc... then I started to say no and they paid me now to go.
One of many stories.
The mindset applies in other aspects of life. Eventually you get enough of bs and you start to change, as long as you want to - as some people want to stay under the radar the whole time, but you don't grow that way.
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@aurelianspodarec Brilliant! Yes, the mindset matters. Good luck, I can't wait to see the SaaS you're building.
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@kaushik_vikram_balaji Yeah, mindset first and then practice. It was definitely hard to standup for myself. Funny fact, i watched Julius Cesare movie and after that I started to stand up for myself. Be like Cesare xD It will be a few products :D Some small some larger
I started doing it more when I started feeling what is going on inside me when I make a decision or communicate one. And now the voice is so loud that I can't ignore it.
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@ana_maria_ghita Haha! That's nice, Ana! Hope you're able to strongly convince your stakeholders.
Initially, I said yes to all feature requests. At some point, it became very clear that the product will become bloated quickly if we keep doing that and now we only approve those features that many customers requested and that fit our product vision.
For all other requests, it is a polite "no".
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@sergey_kornilov1 Yes, true! Especially for someone who is building the product, it's high time we start saying no to all the feature requests that come our way.
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once you just start it becomes empowering and therefore it becomes compelling and easy
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@simon_s_j Thanks for your response, Simon! Good one.
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