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What do you think about "Couple's Therapy" for co-founders?

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Have you done it? Have you thought of doing it? I just heard about it during YCombinator's Future Founders Conference 2020.
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Bryant Galindo
It was 2017, and I was about to board a flight to work with a four-person founder team on the East Coast. Most founders, this team continued pushing past their interpersonal problems, ignoring them or teaming up against one another to make a business decision because they needed to scale their business model. They were running out of runway. But now, a founder was threatening to quit all of a sudden, and no one understood why; they called me to help. I came in to reset their founder dynamic, provide a neutral third-party assessment, and improve their communication while doing it. I sometimes call this business therapy for founder teams. We need to look to the past just enough to understand why the dynamic has become stuck. But also be future-focused, understanding that building the right communication capabilities is a business benefit, allowing the founder team to collaborate more effectively while airing out past grievances. As I went to their HQs, we blocked out two days for our kick-off session. The founder who threatened to quit revealed to me in our 1:1 coaching calls before our first-day work that he was clinically depressed. The job no longer enthused him, and after three years, he was ready to do something else. He didn't feel safe telling his founder team that, so he withdrew, and his productivity suffered. Everyone on the team felt it. When I began facilitating on that first day, I took a step back to see how the team conversed with one another. One founder would dominate the conversation. Another would repeatedly agree and try to stay logical. Another would play the peacemaker. And the one that was depressed withdrew into his chair, his arms crossed. I could see why things were terrible. Throughout our 3-month contract, my job was to unravel this dynamic while helping them find a new way forward. We did. But by the time they got the help they needed, it was too late. They exhausted their finances. Everyone was burnt out. But our work helped them at least divorce amicably, which they appreciated. It is for this reason I recommend being proactive and finding someone the team can trust early on. Whether that's a mediator, a coach, or an advisor, a neutral third party can help see things objectively and call out bad behavior. You can also always conduct a realignment conversation on your own. Use these 20-questions as your starting point: https://bit.ly/questionsforfounders It's always good to remember that founder teams are a lot like a marriage but without the sex. You'll spend a lot of time with these people. We all have our personalities and quirks. But it's important to check-in and find help when necessary to keep the relationship performing well. If you have any questions you'd like to ask me personally about your own situation, feel free to DM me or check out my website: www.collabshq.com πŸ€™πŸ½
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That is a fantastic suggestion. We don't preach it nearly enough! I don't believe there is such a thing as a flawless co-founder relationship, hence there is a demand. Context is crucial when it comes to addiction group therapy. One advantage of group therapy over solo therapy is this. In individual therapy, the therapist only has one side of the narrative and must make educated judgments based on psychological behaviors. We understand that treatment looks different for everyone at North Jersey Rehabs. Individual treatment may be the greatest option for some, while group therapy may be the best option for others.