Have you ever had to "be the adult in the room" during a funeral?

I'm launching HavenlySent tomorrow: a tool that helps grieving families create professional memorial booklets in 30 minutes, no design skills needed.

But before the launch, I wanted to share why this exists and hear from others who've been through something similar.

A few years ago I started losing people close to me. When my closest friend died, I found myself suddenly being the person families leaned on. Decisions had to be made fast

• the death announcement,

• the eulogy,

• the funeral program.

  All of it, while grieving.

The funeral program sounds simple. Names, dates, photos, a short biography. On any normal day it would take an hour. But at 2am, sitting in front of blank templates, second-guessing every font and layout while processing loss, grief had completely taken away my ability to reason through something that required reasoning.

The same thing happened when my grandmother died. Same pressure. Same 2am design crisis. Same unnecessary weight on top of real loss.

That's when I couldn't ignore the pattern anymore. And eventually I built something about it.

I'd genuinely love to hear from this community: have you ever been that person? The one who had to hold everything together while also falling apart? What was the hardest thing you had to handle logistically while grieving?

Not looking for product feedback here — just a real conversation before tomorrow. This community has always felt human to me, and this product is about as human as it gets.

— Mailu, Founder of HavenlySent 🇰🇪