What's a pattern you picked up from a parent, an ex, or an old job that you've had to unlearn?

What's good my fellow Product Hunters!!!

I'm Neal, founder of reFrame. For me, life is about relationships. Each and every one of them. And often, the hardest conversations in our life are with the people we love.

About 41% of first marriages end in divorce. Second marriages, 60%. Third, 73%. We tell ourselves the next one will be easier. The data says it gets harder, because the one thing that follows us into every new relationship is exactly that... us. This is why I believe the pattern is the problem, not the person.

And it isn't just marriages. Most of us absorbed our communication patterns at home, long before we could choose them, and we carry them straight into our adult relationships. The cycle quietly repeats, without anyone choosing it. Workplaces lose hundreds of billions a year to those exact patterns, before you even count what it does to the work itself. And more adults than ever say they have no close friends at all. Different rooms, same root.

None of this comes from one big betrayal or one bad day. It's the small stuff, stacked. A thousand little moments of how we showed up to the people in front of us. We treat that like a soft skill. It's the whole game. And the hardest part is that almost nobody can see their own patterns while they're standing inside them. It's like trying to read the label from inside the jar... literally impossible, unless someone holds a mirror up from the outside (ahem, this is where reFrame comes in 😉).

reFrame is the X-ray of communication. You show it what you're about to send, or what you just received, and it shows you the patterns underneath, the quiet stuff doing the damage, before it does it. reFrame a message, a whole situation, a conversation thread, or even strategize for that conversation you've been avoiding.

We launch July 1. Before then, I'd love to hear from this community:

What's a pattern you picked up somewhere, from a parent, an ex, an old job, that you've had to work to unlearn?

I'm here, ready to change the world for the better. Follow along if breaking cycles of dysfunction is something you think about too.

Neal