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reFrame
The X-ray of any relationship, situation, or conversation
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The X-ray of any relationship, situation, or conversation
10 followers
What if a product could give you insights your closest friend never could? The hardest conversations are with your spouse, your kid, your boss, or the friend who just blindsided you. reFrame is built for those. It's the X-ray of communication: it reads the patterns in what you send and what you receive. reFrame a message, a situation, or a whole conversation, and rehearse the one you're dreading. Your messages aren't stored by default. You're not the product here, you're who we built it for.
Almost 15 years ago, my wife, one of the strongest people I know, finally built the courage to leave me. The hardest part: it was primarily because of me. It’s a tough pill to swallow when you’re the reason your family structure dissolves, and it put me in the darkest place of my life.
I’ll say something that may sound a bit controversial: it was also the best thing that ever happened to me.
For the first time in my life, someone held a mirror to my face, and I had to actually look. I hated what I saw. What came after wasn’t quick or clean. Therapy, yes, but also thousands of hours of work outside that room until I could see myself honestly. We did divorce. The pain had compounded too far to undo in the moment. But years later, after I’d done the work and become someone different, my wife and I remarried. Not because time healed anything, but because the work changed who I was and how I showed up.
Here’s the thing about relationships with unaddressed issues: the bill never comes due until the blow up. It’s like charging against a credit card you didn’t know you had, until you’re hit with hundreds of thousands in debt. We tell ourselves “that’s just who I am,” like there’s no price to pay for it. There always is. And we all know, hurt people hurt people. reFrame helps you see the fight before the fight, and builds the self awareness to break the pattern instead of passing it down.
I’m a non-technical solo founder, and I built reFrame on nights and weekends so nobody has to lose everything only to learn what was never taught.
Here’s what it does. It detects the patterns in what you’re about to send AND in what you received, in real time, and names them. Patterns like contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and the one I’m least proud of, gaslighting. It doesn’t write your message for you. It shows you what’s already there, so you can decide. And that conversation you’ve been avoiding? We help with that too. Check out The Rehearsal.
We detect. We don’t diagnose. No account needed. Nothing stored.
Try it right now, before you read another comment. Go to WEreFrame.com, paste a message you regret or one that’s been sitting wrong with you, and see what it catches. That first moment of seeing a pattern named is the whole thing.
Then come back and tell me. What did it catch? Where was it wrong? What would you need for it to fit the way you actually talk to the people in your life? I’m here all day, and I want the hard feedback as much as the kind.
I’m the chainbreaker in my family, and I built this to help you be yours.
See the patterns. Break the cycle.
Gratefully,
Neal
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been wanting something like this for ages, especially for those tricky convos with my teenage daughter. tried reframing a heated text exchange and the pattern readout caught stuff i genuinely missed. feels weirdly comforting to see it laid out, not being judged. already shared with two close friends, they both downloaded it.
@aye532679654385 Hi Ayse, thank you for commenting and giving reFrame a try. That weirdly comforting thing you're feeling...its called clarity. Every use is a lesson in real time and applicable to only you. Please let me know if you have any questions or feedback. I'd love to hear them all. Thank you 🙏
Ran a tense work email through it and the pattern callouts actually nailed something I'd been brushing off for weeks. The privacy note sealed it for me, would definitely use it again before firing off the next hard message.
@adelicay27612 Abdulkadir, truly, thank you. I appreciate you stopping by, commenting, and actually giving the product a try. This is exactly the use case for it. Those emails or texts that you get where you know something is off but you just cant quite figure it out. Please let me know if you have any additional questions or feedback, good, and especially bad. Thank you again 🙏