Everyone talks about swipe fatigue like it's about volume. Too many faces, too little time.
I think the real reason people quit is the unpaid work. You write a profile that has to be funny but not trying, honest but not heavy. You pick six photos that somehow explain you. You open with something clever. Then half of it goes nowhere and you never find out why.
That's a part-time job with no feedback loop.
So I'm curious:
Hi Product Hunt, I'm Andy, founder of InTimid.
Dating app downloads have fallen every year since 2019, and 95% of subscribers are gone within twelve months. The industry calls it churn. I think it is a design decision.
Every major app screens on a photo before you get to say a word. That works if you are photogenic and quick. It quietly eliminates introverts, divorcees, widows and widowers, and single parents, who are a large share of the people actually looking for a relationship. They write thoughtful messages nobody reads and delete the app inside a month. The problem is not confidence. It is invisibility.
I know because I am one of them. Twenty years dating in Los Angeles as an introvert, then three years and thousands of dollars with a traditional matchmaker whose entire process for getting to know me was twenty minutes and a handful of questions. Three dates. No second dates. When they asked how many women I wanted to meet, I said: ideally one, if she fits. Nobody in this industry is built to deliver that answer.
So we removed the profile. No bio to write, nothing to swipe. kAI, our AI matchmaker, talks with you instead: ten conversations, 158 signals. Attachment style, how you handle conflict, what you actually need from a partner rather than what you think you should say.
Then:
kAI proposes a match
A human approves it, and at beta that human is me
Both people consent before anyone is introduced
Every user has passed mandatory ID verification
Chat, voice and video stay inside the app, so you never hand out your number
The video on this page is a real first session, unscripted, no prep on either side. The production voice is still in progress, so listen to the questions rather than the delivery.
The free beta opens today across greater Los Angeles and Orange County. Everywhere else, the waitlist is live.
One question, and it is not for votes: what is the one thing you wish a dating app had ever asked you? I am here all day.
Andy Da Costa, Founder
@andy_dacosta Congrats on the launch, cool product.
The personalized conversation starters is cool but will it feel like talking to some LLM or like filling form in different format ?
oh man, the secure voice and video call thing is rad. i've been burned too many times with texting and just want to level up to real convos. maybe i'll actually try this instead of flaking last minute.
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the secure voice and video calls are kind of genius. i'm all about texting but those seem solid if i don't flake. reminds me of the old AIM voice chats, but like, secure and grown-up. could be the nudge i need.
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Congrats on the launch!