Is there a better alternative to managing notifications manually?

I’ve given up trying to get notifications “right.”

Every few weeks I go through them again, turn some off, allow a few back in, change Focus settings… then somehow I’m back to getting random alerts all day.

The weird thing is I don’t actually want fewer notifications. I want fewer useless ones. If someone messages me, fine. If an app wants to tell me about something that happened 9 hours ago, I really don’t need that on my lock screen.

Is there anything that handles this more intelligently? Or is everyone still doing the app by app settings dance?