I ve spent the last 6 months building LoveActually.ai. We engineered a 9-dimension compatibility engine, solved complex context-window problems for long-term memory , and created two distinct AI personalities (one mean, one kind) to solve the "swiping fatigue".
I m the maker behind LoveActually.ai. During our beta, we made a controversial product decision that split our team, and I want to hear your take.
Most AI companions (like ChatGPT or Pi) are RLHF-tuned to be supportive, polite, and agreeable. But in the dating world, we found that "politeness" was actually hurting our users. They didn't need a cheerleader; they needed a wake-up call.
So, we built Astute Kitty. We engineered its system prompt to prioritize "rational critique" over "emotional safety." It calls users out when their dating standards don't match their own profiles.
We ve all been there. You re staring at a match, the cursor is blinking, and your brain is a mess.
One half of you is saying: What s the move? Should I wait? Is this a red flag? I need a strategy. The other half is whispering: I m just tired. I want to be seen. I want someone who actually gets me.
When we built LoveActually.ai, we realized that dating isn t a one-dimensional problem. It s a mix of Cold Strategy and Warm Connection. That s exactly why we didn t just build one generic "AI Assistant." Instead, we gave you a squad: Astute Kitty (A-Cat) and Loving Kitty (L-Cat).
Hi PH! We re the team behind LoveActually.ai an AI relationship companion built for people who are tired of wasting time on modern dating apps. We didn t set out to build yet another dating app. We built this because we hit the same wall many of you have: endless swiping, shallow matches, and algorithms that optimize for engagement, not meaningful connection. After one too many Read receipts and subscription upgrades that changed nothing, we uninstalled everything and asked ourselves: What if an AI actually understood who we are and helped us date better, end to end? That question became LoveActually.ai, powered by two AI companions: Astute Kitty Your matchmaker + wingman Loving Kitty Your emotional anchor Together, they form an AI system that replaces the chaotic dating grind with clarity, guidance, and support. What We Built 1 9D AI Compatibility Engine Astute Kitty (Your Matchmaker) Most apps match you on surface tags. Astute Kitty builds a living psychological profile through conversation emotional patterns, attachment style, communication style, values, boundaries. It understands you deeply and only suggests matches with long-term compatibility potential. 2 Real-time Chat & Date Coach Astute Kitty (Your Wingman) Dating anxiety is real. Astute Kitty reads tone and intent, helps you interpret signals, drafts clearer replies, and even creates personalized date plans based on both personalities. It s like having a socially intelligent co-pilot for every conversation. 3 Emotional Support System Loving Kitty (Your Safety Net) Dating is emotionally taxing. Loving Kitty remembers your history, helps you process setbacks, reframes overthinking, and keeps you grounded. It s the steady presence that makes dating feel less draining and more constructive. Why We Exist
Not to give you infinite choices. Not to trap you in endless engagement loops. But to give you the right choice with clarity, support, and emotional intelligence. If you re done with the noise, the silence, and the self-doubt, try LoveActually ai. We built it because we needed it ourselves. The LoveActually Team (Former swiping survivors turned builders)
Every company has its own vibe, but I ve noticed a pattern: the bigger the company, the less they tend to do for employees around Christmas.
In smaller teams (or startups), it s usually way cosier people actually try to keep the holiday spirit alive (in our country, that often means a Christmas bonus, extra salary, vitamin packs, food hampers, etc.).
After my own burnout from swipe apps, I'm creating LoveActually.ai not another swiper, but an AI that deeply understands you for better matches, guides chats in real-time, and supports emotionally.
Mission: Match with science. Chat with confidence. Heal with AI.
In 2025, we witnessed a true Product Hunt (r)evolution so many things changed dramatically. I honestly think this was the most intense year of changes the platform has ever had.
For example, we got to experience all of this:
Verifying profiles (badges)
Alternative product suggestions on launch pages
Views and online count on forum posts
Adding/Removing the ambassador program
Forums instead of Discussions
Changing the UX/UI of launch pages
Removing Coming soon (Notify me pages)
Adding/Removing downvotes on comments
Forum comments now showing up on our profiles
More extensive footer
Redesign of the main page UI (e.g., new notification icon)
Modern dating apps leave so many people exhausted endless swiping, ghosting, superficial matches that go nowhere. I've felt it myself, and after bad experiences on Tinder/Hinge, I'm building LoveActually.ai: an AI matchmaker that uses deep psychology (like attachment styles and core values) for meaningful connections, plus tools like real-time chat coaching and emotional support.
We just wrapped the Orbit Awards for AI Dictation and now we re moving to the next category: AI Automation.
This one is for the tools that actually do work for you clearing chores, running workflows in the background, or quietly taking over a chunk of your week without turning into another dashboard you have to babysit.
