You don't forget to reach out — you avoid it | ShowUp: For Your People

Hey Product Hunt 👋 I'm Daniel — I work in trade finance by day, indie app builder as my side quest. I had a good friend I'd chat with on WhatsApp from time to time. Not every day — just the kind of friendship where you pick up where you left off. Then life happened. Marriage, a mortgage, two daughters. One day I realized it had been over a year since we last spoke. Not because I forgot him. I thought about reaching out dozens of times. But something always stopped me — "It's been too long, it'll be weird." "I don't have the energy right now." "I'll do it this weekend." I never did. That pattern isn't unique to me. We don't forget the people we love — we *avoid* them. And no app tracks why. Reminder apps solve the wrong problem. They assume you forgot. You didn't. You saw the reminder, acknowledged it, and dismissed it. The gap isn't between forgetting and remembering — it's between intending and doing. **So I built ShowUp — a private relationship mirror.** You add up to 50 people — just *your* people. When a reminder fires and you don't act, it asks why. When you do connect, it asks how you feel. Over time, untended links don't break — they fade. Quietly. Like real relationships do. Everything runs 100% on-device — no accounts, no cloud, no analytics. It's not a CRM. No "contacts" or "interaction logs." Just a mirror. One thing that might interest this community — I have zero coding background. I work in trade finance. ShowUp is my 4th iOS app in 8 months, all built with Claude Code. The app is rooted in Akan philosophy, where you become a person through your relationships. That cultural framework shaped every screen, every piece of copy, every nudge. I'd genuinely love your feedback — what resonates, what doesn't, what's missing. And I'm curious: **When was the last time you thought about calling someone and didn't? What held you back?** Cheers.