Nobody tells you that. They show you the before and the after -the breakdown and the breakthrough but they skip everything in the middle. The months where you're doing the work and still feel awful. The days when you think you've finally turned a corner and then fall apart again. The strange grief of getting better, because getting better means finally feeling what you spent so long avoiding. Healing is not returning to who you were before. You can't go back. The person you were before the grief, the relationship, the burnout, the years of silence that person existed in a different life. Healing means building someone new. Someone who has seen more, felt more, and knows more about what they need.
That takes longer than anyone will tell you. It's less triumphant than it looks from the outside. Some days healing looks like getting out of bed. Some days it looks like crying and not knowing why. Some days it looks like setting a boundary, asking for help, or just admitting that you're still not okay. That is enough. All of it is enough. You don't have to be inspiring. You don't have to have figured it out. You just have to keep going, a little bit at a time, in whatever way you can manage today.
That's not weakness. That's the whole thing.
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