When should a proactive AI act — and when should it stay quiet?

We’ve been thinking about this a lot while building Guidy.

Long-term memory can help an AI understand your ongoing projects, past decisions, preferences, and unfinished tasks. But memory alone doesn’t necessarily make an AI useful.

The harder question is: when should it actually do something with that memory?

For example, imagine an AI remembers that:

• you have an important meeting coming up;

• you discussed the same project twice before;

• there are still unresolved action items from those conversations;

• your priorities have changed since the last meeting.

Should it proactively prepare a brief before the meeting?

Should it remind you about the unresolved items?

Or should it wait until you explicitly ask?

This is one of the product questions we’re exploring with Guidy: how to make proactive AI genuinely helpful without turning it into another source of notifications.

I’m curious how other Product Hunt users and makers think about this:

What should an AI be allowed to do proactively without asking you first?

And on the other side:

What actions should always require your confirmation?

For me, the interesting part of proactive AI isn’t how often it can act — it’s whether it can understand when acting is actually useful.