Tony Robbins

Nations #1 Life and Business Strategist, Bestselling Author, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist

THIS CHAT HAPPENED ON August 19, 2015

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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
Hey friends, it's Tony Robbins here. I am a bestselling author, entrepreneur, and philanthropist. For the last 38 years, I've reached millions of people all over the world at my business and personal development events and through my audio and video products. It's been a privilege to be called upon to consult and coach with some of the world’s finest athletes, entertainers, Fortune 500 CEOs, and even presidents of nations. Mostly I'm proud to feed 4 million people per year in 56 countries and coordinate programs in more than 1,500 schools, 700 prisons, and 50,000 service organizations and shelters — this year I’ve donated all the profits of my latest book, Money: Master the Game, plus an additional financial gift to personally feed 50 million. I’m also working with my partners at Feeding America (America’s largest hunger relief organization) to obtain matching funds so that we can provide 100 million meals this year.
Ben Debayle
@bendebayle
Hey Tony, what are your top 2 public speaking tips?
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@bendebayle My #1 speaking tip for anyone is stop thinking about yourself. Most people experience enormous stress or even fear when they are about to speak to an audience of any size. The reason for this is that they're focused on how they are doing and how they're going to come across. If instead, you can put all of your focus into your audience and be present with them, focusing completely on their needs, desires and concerns, then you will be guided to spontaneously shift your speaking conversation in a way that truly meets the needs of your audience. More importantly, you will be focused on serving them and not on yourself and so you'll have no fear.
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@bendebayle My second tip is to over prepare by truly studying your audience in advance of your speech. Doing your homework, to again discover what are their deepest desires and biggest concerns. And then formulate a plan of how to serve them better than anyone else has before. I believe that life is found in the dance between what we desire most and what we fear most. Help people with those two things and you will succeed with any group.
Dominik Bleilevens
@beleevens · Creator of @HNSTLY_WTF
@tonyrobbins so true! I think this is also true for other parts of your life. You don't need to wonder how you're coming across.. instead you should be present with the people and things around you. :)
What is the best piece of advice you have ever been given?
Troy Shu
@troyshu
@alfink92 by "best", do you mean "most life changing"? and/or "affecting the most amount of people he's worked with"
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@alfink92 That's a tough question because my life is constantly about getting advice from the best in the world. But if I had to narrow it down, I would say two pieces of advice. #1 my original mentor, Jim Rohn, taught me that the secret to life is to find a way to do more for others than anyone else is doing. If you want to be extraordinary as a friend or business person, as a father or a lover, find a way to add more value, especially to those you love the most. I'm obsessed by this focus, and I really believe it's the secret to not only wealth but real lasting happiness. In my soul I believe the secret to living is giving.
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@alfink92 #2 came from a man who at the time was the richest man in Canada -- a brilliant businessman, billionaire and entrepreneur. He taught me Proximity Is Power. he told me at the time, if I wanted to make a movie, it would be easy, because I had so many clients who were producers, actors and heads of studios; I'm around them all the time. They in fact put me in a dozen movies at that time, without my even asking, because I was in their proximity. He said, 'If you wanted to make a deal at IBM, you could probably make it work, but it would be a lot harder because you're not in proximity.' In order to get my financial goals, he taught me to get in proximity with investment bankers. Two years later I made a deal that was worth $400 million to me, taking a company public! Proximity Is Power -- remember it, apply it. It will change your life.
PrashantiTata
@prashantitata
@tonyrobbins That's an interesting advice. When you say proximity do you mean location or access to them? I almost feel like you are emphasizing power of networking which is great but what about introverts who aren't great at small talk and networking?
Andreas Klinger
@andreasklinger · Tech at Product Hunt 💃
I got this question asked recently and – well… – will just pass it on to you if i may ;) How would you define success? For yourself, for clients, for companies, for "scenes", for industries?
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@andreasklinger I believe success is not a destination but an ongoing process of constant and never ending improvement. Our success in life comes in two forms. Our ability to take our vision and make it real, whether that be in our professional or personal lives. But secondly, and equally as important, our ability to contribute to others in a way that creates a sense of true meaning and fulfillment. A sad example of someone who was successful by most people's measures, would be the great loss we experienced last year in Robin Williams. He wanted to be a great comedian, to make people laugh around the world and he accomplished it. He wanted to be a great actor and win an Academy Award, he succeeded there too. He wanted a beautiful family, and people around the world who loved him. He accomplished all of this. But he took his own life because success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure. My wish for you is to find a meaningful mission that will ignite you every day.
Andrea Hernández
@think_andreah · Founder, Merienda
@tonyrobbins I love this response. Thank you so much for the insight.
Philip Sola
@phil_sola123
@think_andreah Food for thought when you realise you can live your whole life trying to be rich, make others happy etc. only to look back and feel no fulfilment from any of it... the reasons are far more important than the outcome or the destination :)
Dominik Bleilevens
@beleevens · Creator of @HNSTLY_WTF
@tonyrobbins @andreasklinger I think many entrepreneurs are trying to build a "successful" business, although they should be content with their life in the first place. If you are content and if you know your core values by which you take actions, the probability that you are going to build a successful business is much higher I think. Additionally I would define successful businesses as businesses that are able to deliver their product for several years and businesses that have a positive impact on the world.
Eve Pu Lin
@pu_insight · Consultant, coach
@tonyrobbins Thanks. What's a process that you use to discover and re-discover what this mission is for you, or what's a process you recommend people to use?
Maria Gosur
@mariagosur · Graphic/Web Design/Developer
What does your daily routine look like--how do you get the day started right and still hold positive sustainability to the end of day?
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@mariagosur I start every day by jumping in freezing cold water! :) In all my homes I either have a cold plunge that I keep at 56 degrees. Or here in Sun Valley, where I am now, I have the river, which I jump in even in the winter! I do this as a daily practice, as a discipline to make my mind know that when I say I'm going to do something, I do it now! No matter how difficult it may seem. It also has amazing physical value for the body. Every cell, nerve, muscle in your body, pumps like crazy when you make that radical of a temperature change. It moves your lymph and makes you ready for anything. Completely invigorating.
Maria Gosur
@mariagosur · Graphic/Web Design/Developer
@tonyrobbins ha I wasn't expecting that! Thanks for the response, and I'll have to try this! :)
David McGraw
@xmcgraw · Founder • Builder • U.S. Marine Veteran
@tonyrobbins I love this idea of practiced discipline. Discipline beats motivation. It's too easy to blame inaction on a lack of motivation. Train yourself to control your mind, not let the mind train you. I haven't jumped into any freezing cold water (yet), however, I have started two other things that I practice daily.
Fabio Bracht
@fabiobracht
@mariagosur I'd be very interested in this response as well! I've been finally suceeding in starting my day early and productively, but I still seem to get burned out pretty quickly. Anything after lunch is 10x harder.
Kunal Bhatia
@kunalslab · Co-founder & Design Lead @SlidesUp
@tonyrobbins I've been trying this too - although I hate cold showers, I take my regular shower and slowly turn down the temperature before going all the way to the cold side. How long did it take you to get used to this?
Philip Sola
@phil_sola123
@xmcgraw Hi David, may I ask what the two other things you practise daily are? :)
David McGraw
@xmcgraw · Founder • Builder • U.S. Marine Veteran
@phil_sola123 Rising before a specific time (5:30AM) and going to the gym. It's so easy to let my mind talk me out of doing both of these, but I feel so much better when I take control and win.
Maria Gosur
@mariagosur · Graphic/Web Design/Developer
@xmcgraw What do you practice daily David?
Irina Jordan
@irinajordan · Director of Inbound Marketing
What book are you reading / listening to right now?
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@irinajordan One of my favorite books of all time, "The 100: A Ranking Of The Most Influential Persons In History" by Michael Hart. It takes a provocative look at who has influenced history the most. And I find that even a short biography of the greats of history to be incredibly inspiring. I also recommend to everyone that they read a classic: "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. After reading it you'll know, no matter how big your challenge, you'll realize you have no problems! And you'll remember the unwavering power of the human spirit that lives within you.
Walkiria Paiva
@walkiriapva
@tonyrobbins The 100: One of the best books I ever read, their histories inspired me to move forward, realizing that I was not the first nor the last going through changes in life. I am still moving forward, always will. Thanks Tony.
Troy Shu
@troyshu
@tonyrobbins in your quest to feed millions every year and coordinate thousands of other programs to help people, what is a pain point that you are experiencing, and how can we help? :)
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@troyshu I'm touched by your question. The answer is simple, I hate suffering. I hate to see people suffer because I feel their suffering. And I love to light people up. I love to see people transform. I love to see the light in someones eyes when they become a giver instead of a taker. Your question is astute. Most of us find our passions in things that were either denied or were taken from us...that's often where some of our desires come from. I grew up in a family that today we call "food insecure" -- there were days with no meals. So I'm very passionate about feeding people. I was 11 years old one Thanksgiving and we had no money for food. A stranger delivered a Thanksgiving meal to our home -- it changed me forever. It was more than food, it made me believe that strangers care. And it made me care about strangers. I promised myself that someday I would do well enough to take care of others and provide the same gifts. At 17 I fed two families for the first time at Thanksgiving. It was so enormously fulfilling, I wanted to double it each year. Within a few years I was feeding a couple hundred people. Then I got people involved in my early stage companies, my employees, my friends. Quickly it grew to 1 million people, then 2 million. In the last 7 years, my wife and I have matched our Foundations 2 million meals, with 2 million meals of our own for a total of 4 million. These last few years as I wrote "Money: Master the Game" I couldn't help be struck by the radical contrast between those with enormous wealth and those who are still living like how I grew up. In fact Congress cut what we used to know as food stamps a few years ago by billions of dollars, functionally eliminating one meal a week for all people currently using government assistance. I decided to do something. I had fed 42 million people of the course of my lifetime, since I was 17. I decided I wanted to feed more people in one year than I had in my entire life. So I partnered with Feeding America, the nations #1 Hunger Relief organization. I asked them if I donated all the profits of my book in advance, how many people could I feed. It was a sizable amount -- they told me I could feed 10 million people! I committed on the spot to do that, but then decided to raise that number to include an additional gift. I'm proud to say that I've personally donated 50 million meals this year alone. More importantly, and the reason I'm telling you this, is I'm providing matching funds to feed 100 million people this year. IF anyone reading would like to join me, I'll match any donation you'd like to make to Feeding America. September is Hunger Relief month, so if for no other reason than timing, do it now! http://moneymasterthegame.com/Fe...
Jeanni Cahill
@guardthedoor · Blogger & Firewalker
@tonyrobbins My family will help out. We already have the kids signed up to help with Basket Brigade again this year. Thank you also for donating to families in Chicago in our names. It was something we never anticipated.
Troy Shu
@troyshu
@tonyrobbins Hi Tony. Thank you so much for the response: your story of how you've developed a passion so fulfilling is truly inspiring. Maybe all these new innovations in food (e.g. Soylent, artificial meat, robotic cooks) will one day positively impact every single person in the world. I'll certainly check out Feeding America and spread the word about your matching promise! Take care, Troy
Morgan Black
@atlaskids · Founder, BlueDeep Capital
When was the last time you were so challenged by something that you didn't know what to do? And how did the whole thing turn out?
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Tony Robbins
@tonyrobbins
@atlaskids You have definitely perplexed me with this question! :) From an authentic place, it's been a long time since something has pushed my buttons. But if I had to dig deep, the answer would be somewhat humorous. It's my wife! :) I love this woman more than life itself and she is the sweetest soul you could ever imagine, with no exaggeration. BUT, if she doesn't eat for a few hours, she turns into Godzilla. She breaths fire. The sweetest princess on earth, becomes the largest monster you will ever meet. Here's my dilemma: I want to feed her, but she doesn't want to eat anything at this point. Nothing is good enough. And when I invite her to eat along the way, she sometimes get irritated! This used to make me crazy and mad because I love her so much and want to make everything perfect. But I realize everyone's blood sugar patterns are different. So now my plan is simple: Kill the monster while it's little. I do this by packing a picnic everywhere we go. The food she likes is in a cold bag, in the car, even when she's shopping. I'm obsessed and life is good! LOL
Sofian Oweideh
@junoweideh
@tonyrobbins haha this is so funny, love it
Atul Pradhananga
@atulpradhananga · Logo Designer and Branding Consultant
@tonyrobbins You really made laugh with this one, sir :D
Sutori
@projectsutori · Software Engineer
When you started out coaching after working with Jim Rohm, how did you go about in giving advice when you hadn't much life experience at the time?
Alejo Rivera
@alejoriveralara
Have you read the critique to you/your-seminars on the book Quiet? If so, what's you're take on it?
Nick Fogle
@nickfogle · CTO, Wavve
@alejoriveralara @tonyrobbins Very interested in hearing Tony's take on this. Introversion is biologically tied to how we use energy, and since Tony has such great material on changing one's state, I felt that the author's characterization missed much of what Tony teaches.