Tony Robbins

Nations #1 Life and Business Strategist, Bestselling Author, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist

THIS CHAT HAPPENED ON August 19, 2015

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Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
Hey friends, it's Tony Robbins here. I am a bestselling author, entrepreneur, and philanthropist. For the last 38 years, I've reached millions of people all over the world at my business and personal development events and through my audio and video products. It's been a privilege to be called upon to consult and coach with some of the world’s finest athletes, entertainers, Fortune 500 CEOs, and even presidents of nations. Mostly I'm proud to feed 4 million people per year in 56 countries and coordinate programs in more than 1,500 schools, 700 prisons, and 50,000 service organizations and shelters — this year I’ve donated all the profits of my latest book, Money: Master the Game, plus an additional financial gift to personally feed 50 million. I’m also working with my partners at Feeding America (America’s largest hunger relief organization) to obtain matching funds so that we can provide 100 million meals this year.
Ben Debayle@bendebayle · Tech enthusiast, non-profit leader
Hey Tony, what are your top 2 public speaking tips?
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@bendebayle My #1 speaking tip for anyone is stop thinking about yourself. Most people experience enormous stress or even fear when they are about to speak to an audience of any size. The reason for this is that they're focused on how they are doing and how they're going to come across. If instead, you can put all of your focus into your audience and be present with them, focusing completely on their needs, desires and concerns, then you will be guided to spontaneously shift your speaking conversation in a way that truly meets the needs of your audience. More importantly, you will be focused on serving them and not on yourself and so you'll have no fear.
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@bendebayle My second tip is to over prepare by truly studying your audience in advance of your speech. Doing your homework, to again discover what are their deepest desires and biggest concerns. And then formulate a plan of how to serve them better than anyone else has before. I believe that life is found in the dance between what we desire most and what we fear most. Help people with those two things and you will succeed with any group.
Dominik Bleilevens@beleevens · Creator of @HNSTLY_WTF
@tonyrobbins so true! I think this is also true for other parts of your life. You don't need to wonder how you're coming across.. instead you should be present with the people and things around you. :)
What is the best piece of advice you have ever been given?
Troy Shu@troyshu
@alfink92 by "best", do you mean "most life changing"? and/or "affecting the most amount of people he's worked with"
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@alfink92 That's a tough question because my life is constantly about getting advice from the best in the world. But if I had to narrow it down, I would say two pieces of advice. #1 my original mentor, Jim Rohn, taught me that the secret to life is to find a way to do more for others than anyone else is doing. If you want to be extraordinary as a friend or business person, as a father or a lover, find a way to add more value, especially to those you love the most. I'm obsessed by this focus, and I really believe it's the secret to not only wealth but real lasting happiness. In my soul I believe the secret to living is giving.
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@alfink92 #2 came from a man who at the time was the richest man in Canada -- a brilliant businessman, billionaire and entrepreneur. He taught me Proximity Is Power. he told me at the time, if I wanted to make a movie, it would be easy, because I had so many clients who were producers, actors and heads of studios; I'm around them all the time. They in fact put me in a dozen movies at that time, without my even asking, because I was in their proximity. He said, 'If you wanted to make a deal at IBM, you could probably make it work, but it would be a lot harder because you're not in proximity.' In order to get my financial goals, he taught me to get in proximity with investment bankers. Two years later I made a deal that was worth $400 million to me, taking a company public! Proximity Is Power -- remember it, apply it. It will change your life.
PrashantiTata@prashantitata
@tonyrobbins That's an interesting advice. When you say proximity do you mean location or access to them? I almost feel like you are emphasizing power of networking which is great but what about introverts who aren't great at small talk and networking?
Sutori@projectsutori · Software Engineer
When you started out coaching after working with Jim Rohm, how did you go about in giving advice when you hadn't much life experience at the time?
Alejo Rivera@alejoriveralara
Have you read the critique to you/your-seminars on the book Quiet? If so, what's you're take on it?
Nick Fogle@nickfogle · CTO, Wavve
@alejoriveralara @tonyrobbins Very interested in hearing Tony's take on this. Introversion is biologically tied to how we use energy, and since Tony has such great material on changing one's state, I felt that the author's characterization missed much of what Tony teaches.
Erik Torenberg@eriktorenberg · Former Product Hunt
Tony, thank you for joining us! It was fantastic podcasting with you last month. When you do deep therapy sessions with clients, how do you help people understand how their circumstances (parents, environment, history) has affected them but also choose to not let that influence their path? (here's the podcast link for those who missed it: https://soundcloud.com/product-h...)
Erik Torenberg@eriktorenberg · Former Product Hunt
@pbfreak422 good feedback - thank you
Fabio Bracht@fabiobracht
@pbfreak422 The sorting drop-down on top of the page should let us sort by "newest responses from host".
Jason Jacobs@pbfreak422 · CEO
@tonyrobbins If you had to start over, how would you build a new audience/following today?
Andreas Klinger@andreasklinger · Tech at Product Hunt 💃
I got this question asked recently and – well… – will just pass it on to you if i may ;) How would you define success? For yourself, for clients, for companies, for "scenes", for industries?
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@andreasklinger I believe success is not a destination but an ongoing process of constant and never ending improvement. Our success in life comes in two forms. Our ability to take our vision and make it real, whether that be in our professional or personal lives. But secondly, and equally as important, our ability to contribute to others in a way that creates a sense of true meaning and fulfillment. A sad example of someone who was successful by most people's measures, would be the great loss we experienced last year in Robin Williams. He wanted to be a great comedian, to make people laugh around the world and he accomplished it. He wanted to be a great actor and win an Academy Award, he succeeded there too. He wanted a beautiful family, and people around the world who loved him. He accomplished all of this. But he took his own life because success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure. My wish for you is to find a meaningful mission that will ignite you every day.
Andrea Hernández@think_andreah · Founder, Merienda
@tonyrobbins I love this response. Thank you so much for the insight.
Sofian Oweideh@junoweideh
@tonyrobbins awesome, thanks
Philip Sola@phil_sola123
@think_andreah Food for thought when you realise you can live your whole life trying to be rich, make others happy etc. only to look back and feel no fulfilment from any of it... the reasons are far more important than the outcome or the destination :)
Dominik Bleilevens@beleevens · Creator of @HNSTLY_WTF
@tonyrobbins @andreasklinger I think many entrepreneurs are trying to build a "successful" business, although they should be content with their life in the first place. If you are content and if you know your core values by which you take actions, the probability that you are going to build a successful business is much higher I think. Additionally I would define successful businesses as businesses that are able to deliver their product for several years and businesses that have a positive impact on the world.
Eve Pu Lin@pu_insight · Consultant, coach
@tonyrobbins Thanks. What's a process that you use to discover and re-discover what this mission is for you, or what's a process you recommend people to use?
Troy Shu@troyshu
what have been the 3 most effective techniques for harnessing the power of affirmations that you’ve seen others (e.g. your clients, friends, etc.) use?
Luke Kling@lukepeerfly · Director of Marketing, PeerFly Inc.
As a fellow Firewalker, I know that I can accomplish anything and I have been fairly successful in my ventures so far. But, I'm only 27 years old. I have a lot that I want to accomplish and I am excited to work towards it. What is the best method you've found to help prevent burnout? Whether from success or failure, what have you found has helped keep you motivated? COOL MOSS COOL MOSS COOL MOSS
Website Designer@webdesignerjay · Website Designer
@lukepeerfly Great question!
Erik Torenberg@eriktorenberg · Former Product Hunt
Everyone please thank Tony Robbins for his INCREDIBLE answers. Often people sacrifice quality for quantity but not Tony. Each of his answers is a thoughtful essay in and of itself. To learn more and to thank Tony please check out his book "MONEY Master the Game: 7 Steps to Financial Freedom" here: http://www.amazon.com/MONEY-Mast...
Maria Gosur@mariagosur · Graphic/Web Design/Developer
What does your daily routine look like--how do you get the day started right and still hold positive sustainability to the end of day?
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@mariagosur I start every day by jumping in freezing cold water! :) In all my homes I either have a cold plunge that I keep at 56 degrees. Or here in Sun Valley, where I am now, I have the river, which I jump in even in the winter! I do this as a daily practice, as a discipline to make my mind know that when I say I'm going to do something, I do it now! No matter how difficult it may seem. It also has amazing physical value for the body. Every cell, nerve, muscle in your body, pumps like crazy when you make that radical of a temperature change. It moves your lymph and makes you ready for anything. Completely invigorating.
Maria Gosur@mariagosur · Graphic/Web Design/Developer
@tonyrobbins ha I wasn't expecting that! Thanks for the response, and I'll have to try this! :)
David McGraw@xmcgraw · Founder • Builder • U.S. Marine Veteran
@tonyrobbins I love this idea of practiced discipline. Discipline beats motivation. It's too easy to blame inaction on a lack of motivation. Train yourself to control your mind, not let the mind train you. I haven't jumped into any freezing cold water (yet), however, I have started two other things that I practice daily.
Fabio Bracht@fabiobracht
@mariagosur I'd be very interested in this response as well! I've been finally suceeding in starting my day early and productively, but I still seem to get burned out pretty quickly. Anything after lunch is 10x harder.
Kunal Bhatia@kunalslab · Co-founder & Design Lead @SlidesUp
@tonyrobbins I've been trying this too - although I hate cold showers, I take my regular shower and slowly turn down the temperature before going all the way to the cold side. How long did it take you to get used to this?
Philip Sola@phil_sola123
@xmcgraw Hi David, may I ask what the two other things you practise daily are? :)
David McGraw@xmcgraw · Founder • Builder • U.S. Marine Veteran
@phil_sola123 Rising before a specific time (5:30AM) and going to the gym. It's so easy to let my mind talk me out of doing both of these, but I feel so much better when I take control and win.
Maria Gosur@mariagosur · Graphic/Web Design/Developer
@xmcgraw What do you practice daily David?
Eaden McKee@eadz · Software Architect, CoinJar UK
You're mentioned in the book about introverts, "Quiet". Are/Were you ever an introvert? Do you think it helps to have an extroverted personality to be successful?
Greg Sikorski@gregsikorski · Web developer
@tonyrobbins Could you recommend any books about personal development?
Clelleshia Martin@estheticiancece
@tonyrobbins what is the one thing you are NOT doing on a day-to-day basis that you want to start?
Fabio Bracht@fabiobracht
I am still unable to kick-start significant projects because I seem to have a crippling action-paralysis due to the fact that I was never praised for effort as a child (always for innate "intelligence"). I tend to fail at every project that demands any significant amount of effort or discipline. Because of that, I am now starting to catch myself even eventing= myself from dreaming, because of a belief that "why bother, I'll fail like always". How can I begin to overcome this?
Gary Gaspar@garygaspar · CEO -- Marker.io
Hey Tony! First, a huge thank you for doing what you're doing. You really are making a difference. Question: What is your deepest fear and how do you use it to serve & empower you?
Irina Jordan@irinajordan · Director of Inbound Marketing
What book are you reading / listening to right now?
Tony Robbins@tonyrobbins
@irinajordan One of my favorite books of all time, "The 100: A Ranking Of The Most Influential Persons In History" by Michael Hart. It takes a provocative look at who has influenced history the most. And I find that even a short biography of the greats of history to be incredibly inspiring. I also recommend to everyone that they read a classic: "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. After reading it you'll know, no matter how big your challenge, you'll realize you have no problems! And you'll remember the unwavering power of the human spirit that lives within you.
Walkiria Paiva@walkiriapva
@tonyrobbins The 100: One of the best books I ever read, their histories inspired me to move forward, realizing that I was not the first nor the last going through changes in life. I am still moving forward, always will. Thanks Tony.
Daniel Morse@dfmorse23 · LearnZillion
What role does asking-for-advice play in career development? What's your best practice for asking-for-advice?
Corley@corleyh · COO @ Product Hunt
When you think of all of your life experiences - what is the one that warms your heart the most?