Amanda Palmer

Amanda Palmer

Performer, writer, giver, taker, yeller, listener, love-lover, rule-hater and author of The Art of Asking

THIS CHAT HAPPENED ON August 25, 2015

Discussion

Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
**ALL DONE** thank you guys for wonderful questions...and thank you producthunt folks for hosting! a few links to leave you with: the patreon (where i'm doing all my shit now): https://www.patreon.com/amandapa... and a reminder that "the art of asking", my book, is coming out in paperback this fall...watch for it. love to you guys....xxx AFP ........... HOLA! I am Amanda fucking Palmer, writer, pianist, ukulele-slayer, general performance artist, communicator, weirdo. i was in a band for a long time called the Dresden Dolls, then I went solo, then I did a big TED talk about kickstarter, then I wrote a book called “The Art of Asking” which hit the bestseller list. I’m also 8 months pregnant. I don’t hold back. Ask me anything. Editor's note: To see more of Amanda, we chat with her on the Product Hunt Podcast here: https://soundcloud.com/product-h...
seriously hilary
seriously hilary @seriouslyhilary
@amandapalmer I don't really have a question at all I suppose, I just want you to see me. Is it wrong to care more about some people seeing you than other people, even if you have never met those people? Reading your pregnancy has made me think a lot about my own three years ago, makes me ache for a little baby. There is nothing in this world better than my little boy, your heart will burst with love when you see yours for the first time. Then your boobs will burst, but you won't mind. I'm having a back operation in November, will be stuck in bed for 4-6 months, buying lots of books, made an art-of-asking secret group on fb to ask my closest friends for help if I need it. Thanks for that. Thanks for understanding people and sharing heart. You are important.
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@seriouslyhilary I see you too. Hope the operation goes well. Use the time off to be kind to yourself. :)
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@seriouslyhilary thanks :) and i see you. hi.
Suzie
Suzie@softheartedfool · PhD student
@seriouslyhilary I see you. You can ask me, or others in this community for help too! I'll send you books if you like!
Vasili Frankos
Vasili Frankos@vasilifrankos · Musician
@seriouslyhilary Thanks for warming my heart with your words here :-) Much love to you and to Amanda for creating spaces where kindness and sincere warmth get to dance together around the web like this.
Jeff Umbro
Jeff Umbro@jeffumbro · CEO of The podglomerate
How awesome is it being married to Neil Gaiman?
Erik Torenberg
Erik Torenberg@eriktorenberg · Former Product Hunt
@jeffumbro @amandapalmer do you find a trend that many successful creatives marry other creatives? or not really
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@jeffumbro hahahahahahaha. today it's awesome! some days it's a pain in the ass! how awesome is it to be in YOUR LONG TERM AND COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIP?? exactly. neil is wonderful. i have no regrets that i wound up with him as my swashbuckling life partner.
Jeff Umbro
Jeff Umbro@jeffumbro · CEO of The podglomerate
@amandapalmer I love my long term and complicated relationships, romantically and otherwise. That's what makes life worth living.
Jeff Umbro
Jeff Umbro@jeffumbro · CEO of The podglomerate
@eriktorenberg I personally don't, but I do see a lot of really smart people ending up together because smart people seem to surround themselves with smart people. I look at creativity as another form of intelligence.
Gabe Rios
Gabe Rios@fatfullstacks · Marketing Director - LTC
@amandapalmer Would you say that your particular (awesome) kind of relationship (poly right?) has helped in shaping your philosophy about the freedom to just ask and to give freely or the other way around? Its always interesting to me how such things filter through various aspects of life.
Erik Torenberg
Erik Torenberg@eriktorenberg · Former Product Hunt
Hey Amanda! Thanks for joining us. You've achieved a ton, and I understand no regrets, but what's something in your life that you are _not_ proud of? Would you have done it differently? Conversely, what's something you've not yet achieved that some part of you (however small) you won't feel complete until you do? (besides the baby of course, congrats!)
Félix Marqués
Félix Marqués@felixmarques
@eriktorenberg A good way of rephrasing this is probably “Where did you fuck up, and how do you think someone else can avoid doing that?”
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@eriktorenberg hey erik!!! i don't believe in regrets. i've had them (the college i went to, the songs i never finished, the fact that i still cannot find time to care about spending more than 3 minutes on my hair at any given time)....and i let them go. i'm here now, and happy. as far as achieving more things? i have things i'd like to do, projects, but i don't think they'll complete my life. i refuse to take myself that seriously. i want to make a french album, and a german one, i want to write more theater, i want to play more classical music for shits, i want to write some music for film, i want to finish all the hundreds of songs i've never finished, i want to be laurie anderson, i want to tour brazil, i want...to do a lot of things. but i'm not worried. i'll...do some things. and probably not others. and then i'll die. and it'll be fine.
Suky-chan
Suky-chan@midnightwriter
@amandapalmer Please, do come to Brazil! My mom loved the idea of you couch surfing with your fans!
Vasili Frankos
Vasili Frankos@vasilifrankos · Musician
@amandapalmer Is there any particular classical music or composer that recently inspired you?
Laura
Laura@lauralucca
@amandapalmer oh that brazil tour you MUST do <3
Vasili Frankos
Vasili Frankos@vasilifrankos · Musician
@amandapalmer In an interview with Leonard Lopate of WNYC, Neil Gaiman was asked if you have influenced his writing. He said you have especially influenced the book Ocean at the End of the Lane. He says you've influenced his attitude with how you "love, value things like human emotion and human interaction." He said when compared to him, plot tends to be less important to you. As a busker (solo viola is how I busk), I identify strongly with this. I wonder who people are in the very moment I encounter them. I feel less compelled to know thier story, and more interested in who they are being in that exact shared moment. Will you speak a bit more about this?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@vasilifrankos ha. well - i DO care about plot....but probably not as much as a fiction writer who writes 700-page novels. i've found my lifes work veering me in a direction that has more to do with what i can do to connect with other people - how much i can expose myself without making myself or others unsafe, how much i can say without fucking shit up, how honest i an be without harming anything. i feel like if i can get those things mastered - in any media - i'm moving towards something like progress as an artist. neil sits around trying to create new worlds, and i spend more time thinking about how i can honestly reflect the one i'm already in. it's very yin yang when you think about it - it's almost the same job, just with a different filter or setting switch.
Vasili Frankos
Vasili Frankos@vasilifrankos · Musician
@amandapalmer Thanks so much for your generous thoughtful response :-) You are a huge inspiration to me. You've helped me affirm my work as a muscian-artist, teacher, and society-participator. I completely identify with what you are saying about Neil and the Yin/Yang nature of the kind of work each of you do. In fact, the only long term relationship I've had (almost 8 yrs) started out, in part, with your brilliant song "Coin Operated Boy" coming up on a mix CD she gave me. I stopped my car and called her to express my excitement at hearing the song and being so inspired. Her mom is an English teacher, and she reads a lot of fiction. As I would report my various busking stories "out there" on the streets, she would report on some of the stories that dance inside of her from pages of fiction crafted by incredible writing artists. One supports the other -- one becomes the other. Yin/Ying inseparable. I'm sending my love to you and the little one inside you, too!
FUNPOV
FUNPOV@funpov
"how honest i can be without harming anything" this is really good stuff
Monica H
Monica H@demonicasj
Did the baby kick as you were a statute/art last week!? :D
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@demonicasj funny enough, no. i think the baby got the gist that mom was working and was like: shhhhhh.
Monica H
Monica H@demonicasj
@amandapalmer what a good baby!
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
@amandapalmer Is the baby kicking now? Mine is.
Julie that's me
Julie that's me@julieduranie
How about a presidential run? Amanda Fuckin' Palmer 2016 or 2020?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
@amandapalmer My 16 year old son loves Bernie! He's talking me into him
Sherry L Vitolo
Sherry L Vitolo@cordial_wheat · publications assistant
@amandapalmer I love him!
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@cordial_wheat FEEL THE BERN
Claribel Tejeda
Claribel Tejeda@claribeltejeda_ · Filmmaker
Hello Amanda, hope you are well. I wanted to know how you do time management when it comes to your art, music, everything. As a creative who just finished school, it is difficult for me to organize when I no longer have the structure of school to guide me.
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@claribeltejeda_ it never ceases being a bitch, frankly. i've overdone and underdone it for years and i think the key ingredient is to be forgiving about the fact that when you're a self-emplyed artist, you're bascially NEVER going to get it right. you're always going to feel like you're slacking or overworking yourself, and as long as you can forgive yourself and carry on, that's fine. oh, and lists help. real paper ones, that you can cross shit off and feel satisfied. i make daily lists (answer this person! tweet this shit! finish this song!) and sometime big-ass long-term lists (clean up my email inbox! fix my fucking website! find inner peace!). it's amazing how it can help just LOOKING at what you think you have to do.
Suzie
Suzie@softheartedfool · PhD student
@amandapalmer I'm a science PhD student and I struggle with time management so much, and it's so hard to forgive myself when I get it wrong. I think it's one of those problems most people suffer from.
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@amandapalmer This is class. :)
Molly Kupfer
Molly Kupfer@mollykupfer
@softheartedfool ^Literally in the same boat.
Andie Katschthaler
Andie Katschthaler@thegrumpygirl · Founder, Grumpy Girl Communications
@amandapalmer I'm doing alright on the short term lists (fortunate that my wife is a wonderfully organised person and has helped me with that), but it's the long term shit that never gets done, like fix the damn website etc. How do you manage it? Do you set aside time for the non-creative (or less creative) and more organisational stuff?
Krista N. Dalton
Krista N. Dalton@kristandalton
@amandapalmer who is your favorite feminist author?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@kristandalton i have MANY. i literally just started the last chapter of "how to build a girl" by caitlin moran today. it's a hilarious coming of age story (thinkly veiled memoir basically) with no holds barred on sex and thoughts and what it feels like to be lost and 15 and horny. i kept reading thinking HOLY SHIT I AM EXACTLY CAITLIN MORAN EXCEPT I GREW UP IN AMERICA AND DIDNT HAVE SIBLINGS WHO HUGGED ME. highly recommended. her book "how to be a woman" is also hilarious.
Krista N. Dalton
Krista N. Dalton@kristandalton
@amandapalmer I read Caitlin Moran's "How to Be A Woman" after seeing her in your recent uploaded show on youtube! Thanks for the recommendation!!
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@kristandalton you're welcome
seriously hilary
seriously hilary @seriouslyhilary
@amandapalmer *adds-Caitlin-to-reading-list-for-bedriddenness* #thanks
Nikos Dunno
Nikos Dunno@dunnogr
how are you feeling today?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@dunnogr thanks for asking!!! i'm TIRED AS FUCK. i have mostly been in bed, with occasional trips to the fridge and toilet. i've heaard about this happening in the last few weeks of pregnancy. but it's CRAZY. i feel like i have level 10 jetlag and am being sucked into the center of the earth. i considered it a triumph that i opened the unopened mail that has been on my desk for three weeks. I WAS PROUD OF THAT. that is how tired i am.
Yen
Yen@yendraws · Illustrator
@amandapalmer All that potential energy is just collecting itself for the awesome expulsion in about a month Ka-BABY
Krista N. Dalton
Krista N. Dalton@kristandalton
@amandapalmer WOW thank you for being here! I wish I had something to offer you, but maybe some sleepy sloths in solidarity?
Leanna Heffner
Leanna Heffner@leheffner
@amandapalmer and yet here you are on the interweb for an hour typing in answers to our random questions. if i were that tired i don't think i could rally like you are....hot damn woman! ;)
Baukje
Baukje@gompieb
@amandapalmer and that's how should be. You're an incubator... A really good one! <3
Carson R.
Carson R.@carsonmurasaki · Student
@amandapalmer Are there any people you've met recently who have really set your world on fire?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@carsonmurasaki yeah. i met kenyatta cheese a few weeks ago. @kenyatta on twitter. impressive human. i wanted to talk to him for hours.
Paper Lotus
Paper Lotus@awedjob · artist | activist | athlete
How was it to dust off your living statue skills after so many years?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@awedjob pretty wonderful. i miss being a statue sometimes.
Reggie Retro
Reggie Retro@reggieretro · Writer
@amandapalmer Hello. Thanks for doing this. My wife and I are both great admirers of your work. I was wondering if you had any advice about confidence. My wife is an amazing artist, but allows fear to prevent her from really committing to it, and putting herself out there. Do you have any advice for her? It would be an immense help, I'm sure. Thanks again.
cathy green
cathy green@starrlamia · Student
@amandapalmer as a birth nerd just wanted to say I hope you have a lovely birthing experience. I think I heard you mention having a midwife, are you having a homebirth?
Krista N. Dalton
Krista N. Dalton@kristandalton
@starrlamia @amandapalmer I second hearing more about any details you'd be willing to share about the birth! *taking notes*
cathy green
cathy green@starrlamia · Student
@kristandalton glad I'm not the only birth nerd here!
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@starrlamia i am! no drugs for amanda. just ecstatic pain :D
cathy green
cathy green@starrlamia · Student
@amandapalmer awesome! thanks for answering, wish you all the best :) (i'd offer advice but it seems that pregnancy is somehow the universal sign for offering advice to random strangers so I'm sure you've heard it all before!)
Maia Villa
Maia Villa@buzzofmaiabee
@amandapalmer hi! young theatre artist here (actress & writer). have had a great time collaborating with all sorts of people in many theater spaces for about eight years now, but have found that i have a TERRIBLE time collaborating with friends. it's my own crippling embarrassment/shame coming alive, probably because i'm afraid of the people i love not liking my art and thus rejecting/not loving me. does this make sense? and do you have any advice for on how to get over embarrassment/shame when letting those you love see your truest, most vulnerable self? (more than just: practice doing it more!) thank you!!!
Jaxx
Jaxx@jaxx24kisses · Writer
@buzzofmaiabee I'm no afp - but I would say that often collaborating with friends is not the point. Finding the person or people who will do the most justice with the work/piece/Thing/creation and working with those will create new relationships and not risk old ones over something that didn't quite fit.
Maia Villa
Maia Villa@buzzofmaiabee
@buzzofmaiabee (also a big reason why so much of "the art of asking" really spoke to me -- showing vulnerability with strangers through art but having a hard time being vulnerable "asking" lovers...thank you for every lesson explored in that book, of course!)
Maia Villa
Maia Villa@buzzofmaiabee
@jaxx24kisses i appreciate the input! the issue is not collaboration with friends in general. the issue is when those people who DO do the most justice to great pieces are ALSO the best friends. when they're the friends, i just shrivel in the rehearsal room. it's odd.
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@buzzofmaiabee collaborating with friends is a truly slippery slope. there is a very weird balance about caring about the friendship vs caring about the outcome of the art. i've burned a few friendships putting the art-vision first, and i've wound up with some slightly lame projects as a result of putting the friendships first. it's one of the reasons neil and i will never write a musical together. we're too smart to go down that path of hell with one another - we'd prefer to come home at night and be able to pour a glass of wine bitching about our difficult collaborators. :)
Kaitlyn King
Kaitlyn King@thekaitlynking · Graphic Designer, BIG
In the face of recent personal grief, has returning to the recording studio with your father proved to be a positive experience?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@thekaitlynking YES. it was not only wonderful to get back into the studio after not having made a real-ass record since "theatre is evil", but the quality time with my dad was ace. i just listened to all the final mixes last night. i'm really really really happy with it. it's unlike anything i've ever recording before - it's so MELLOW. perfect rainy sunday music. but there's something nice about that. (if you want more info on this one, folks, here.... https://t.co/bTqtIzITbF)
Shannon Hebert Waldm
Shannon Hebert Waldm@shanhebert3 · Student
What values, if any, have you found from your liberal arts education as an artist who has learned so much outside of academia?
Aimee Waters
Aimee Waters@amynoamy · super woman - uk
I'll throw my question into the ring! I'm a counsellor/therapist and I always get super excited when people talk about therapy as every conversation about mental health and therapy, makes a little bit of stigma wither and die. You've mentioned it once or twice (that I know of) can you say a little bit about how has therapy helped you, or if its the case, hindered! Thanks
Amy Sawyers
Amy Sawyers@ginger_swizzle
@amandapalmer not a question but I'm half way through The Art of Asking and I think it's helping. Thank you.
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
@ginger_swizzle What do you find helpful about the book? Just curious
Amy Singer
Amy Singer@knittydotcom · editor, Knitty.com
@bobby_rockit You didn't ask me, but can I answer? Amanda was so very transparent about everything in the process of growing as an artist and as a businesswoman, and it's helping me personally by validating the thoughts I'm having, the questions I'm asking myself, and the choices I'm making as I try to make my own business stronger. It's as if she's mentoring me by example. Thank you, @amandapalmer.
Amy Sawyers
Amy Sawyers@ginger_swizzle
@bobby_rockit I have always tried to control and micromanage everything creative that I do. Without other people's skills and advice I always end up giving up. I didn't realise that I was actually afraid of asking for help and afraid of involving other people in what I'm doing. Amanda's book is helping me see that and will hopefully help me overcome it and actually complete something of substance!
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
@ginger_swizzle Thanks! That's really helpful. I think I need to get that book!
brittany braswell
brittany braswell@brindl7 · insurance/office coordinator, dental
you have been one of the most influential women in my life. your strength and independence inspired me to accept myself and find love for myself. i have struggled with severe anxiety and depression. i began integrating yoga practice and meditation into my day to day and my sense of self awareness has truly blossomed and yet i still struggle to make friends, open up and make myself vulnerable. i was elated to find you enjoy similar hobbies and as i envision you as having all of the friends in the world i wondered do you have any wisdom you might share? thank you for being so approachable and singing the songs and presenting the stories that can be hard to digest but are so important for healing. here is to hoping my anxiety doesn't translate into creepiness! :)
CyMorg
CyMorg@mogoknows
Amanda, I have read many of your Q&A’s, but I have not been able to participate. I really appreciate how you take out the time to do this for us. I have a not-so-normal question about your wardrobe… Ever since I saw this shirt (cardigan) on you I have coveted it. Can you give me a hint to where you got it from? I have never seen anything like it and love it. https://instagram.com/p/jGW9LMQW... https://instagram.com/p/xAgWSuwW5l/
JayJay Johnston
JayJay Johnston@double_bluejay
@mogoknows I love that cardigan
Krista N. Dalton
Krista N. Dalton@kristandalton
@double_bluejay New AFP fashion line? :D
CyMorg
CyMorg@mogoknows
@kristandalton My bank account would be even more sad looking lol
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@mogoknows HA!!!! i bought that sucker after seeing it int he window of a tiny off-brand shop in a sleazy neighborhood of sydney, australia. the white bits are actually stretchy. i wish i could help you more. CLOTHING LINE...maybe when i'm old and retired and doing shit like that. i find it so hard to care about clothes. i try. i fail. i just don't care.
JayJay Johnston
JayJay Johnston@double_bluejay
@kristandalton OH MY GODYES. I'd have a sad wallet but be a happy JayJay
Luma
Luma @deadfishies
What is your current favorite band? And what is your current favorite book?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
T
T @artlessbravura · Bartender/Ballerina
@amandapalmer so this isn't a question as much as a request -- my amazing friend Britt (@totesradbro) has been going through a lot of shit lately. If you could tell her she's awesome, that would be bangarang. She is a kick ass warrior princess with a heart of fire and love, so hearing from someone cut from similar cloth would mean so much. Stay fierce and free Amanda <3
Molly Kupfer
Molly Kupfer@mollykupfer
@amandapalmer Did you ever deal with stage fright?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@mollykupfer yes. big time. and the only thing that cured it was playing more shows. (and more cowbell)
Die Reši
Die Reši@resivtp · Musician
@amandapalmer cowbell <3
Julia
Julia @juju_ftw
I’m starting college on thursday and I'm terrified. I worry about not succeeding academically or socially and have recently realized I'm probably more unprepared, inexperienced and uneducated than my fellow first year students. Any advice ?????
Suky-chan
Suky-chan@midnightwriter
@juju_ftw Don't be afraid to talk to people! They're all as scared as you are! Eventually you'll find your people and make friends and miss classes just to be able to sleep. It will be wonderful! <3
Baukje
Baukje@gompieb
@juju_ftw believe me if I said the teachers are terrified before the first day of school to? Every year, last night before school starts I dream about not knowing anything anymore. You are probably not more unprepared, inexperienced and uneducated then some others. The fact that you think so proves your not. You are already selfreflecting. A lot of other students will never do that. So, that makes you a better one already.
Sara Piff
Sara Piff@sarapiff
@amandapalmer Have you had any strange pregnancy cravings?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@sarapiff i have been craving NAPS.
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@amandapalmer How important do you believe kindness really is? Like really? It struck me how much you spoke about it in your book. For me, kindness has the power to save a life. It's saved mine any many others, but people don't always see that. :) P.S I'm the guy from Ireland you RT my TEDx. I want to be honored to have virtual coffee with you. :)
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@johnmsweeney Shit, my spelling sucks- (would be. :)
Marqui Walker
Marqui Walker@markiwi2 · Markiwi, indie music producer/PR/travels
@amandapalmer not a question, just a statement. Thank you for being you! you have inspired me to work hard and work at what I love. your a strong female role model for me. Thank you! Xxx
Yep That Sarah
Yep That Sarah@yepthatsarah · Writer
What is your biggest fear about motherhood?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@yepthatsarah having no time to myself.
Gilly
Gilly @poizonapple
@amandapalmer The best of you is not the end of you! That's what I kept telling myself after I had a baby and thought *me* might get lost in the waves.
Yep That Sarah
Yep That Sarah@yepthatsarah · Writer
@amandapalmer it is a delicate balance. But you'll learn to find time for yourself amidst it all. That was my biggest fear too. But you have a lot of loving family friends and great partner so I know you'll be able to find the time you need.
Piper
Piper @lapetalplum
What advice would you give to someone about to try being a living statue for the first time?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@lapetalplum have no fear. it's as easy as it looks once you get over feeling absurd.
Fred Bliss
Fred Bliss@fbliss
@amandapalmer How has Patreon worked out? Has it allowed you to keep costs down and given you the flexibility you were looking for to create?
AlexandraSB
AlexandraSB@missalexandrasb · Student. BFA.
@fbliss become her patron and find out in our special AFP family news feed! \|/
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@fbliss YES. patreon has been a godsend. i still sometimes can't believe it - it's sort of like the actual pot of gold at the end of the rainbow...to have everybody all in one place, committed to supporting my work, however weird. it's also been really wonderful to see the community have a gathering place again. i really feel like i failed my fanbase when social media took over and i didn't put together, and tend, a website where everybody could connect. i tried to prioritize it with my webteam for years but social media has just eaten everybody alive, to the point where real communities (like the old forum, theshadowbox.net) disintigrated. it was my fault as much as anybody's, i liked getting sucked into the twitter vortex. but it's only now that i realize how important it was for us to have a place that was FOR US, and patreon has brought that back. i hope they keep working on their social-network style tools (they're still REALLY rough and basic) but i have so much hope even just watching the facebook patron-only group bon together - at 2000+ people, all being kind and supportive of one another - that it'll be possible. i've always been just as concered with how the community connects than with how i get paid, and i how my art gets spread. to me, all those things are kind of inseparable, and i like it that way. (the link to the patreon, everybody: https://www.patreon.com/amandapa..., and to the FB patron-only group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/...)
Lynn Goodman
Lynn Goodman@seagrrl
@amandapalmer The patron FB group really is an amazing place - I have met many really wonderful people there. I cannot say thank you enough tor bringing us together.
millie townsend
millie townsend@milliebridie · Writer and Educator
@amandapalmer I really really hope Patreon becomes commonplace, it makes so much sense! Thanks for getting it going.
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@seagrrl you're welcome. its existence warms me daily.
Bill H
Bill H@bill_h
How do you decide which charities to work with? There is a seemingly infinite number of worthy causes to support and I find myself wondering who to donate to from time to time. Also, in your experience how does one go about deciding what to name a child?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@bill_h the child is easy: you name him after your newly dead best friend :D and as for the charities...y'know...it's gut. there are billions of worthy causes, and you know you can't help everything or everyone, so i just go with my gut and choose shit based on how i feel. sometimes it's timing. i happened to be online today when this kickstarter i've been supporting (https://www.kickstarter.com/proj...) was about to fail if they didn't make about $20k in 6 hours. so i helped. if i hadn't been online today? i wouldn't have. things like that happen, and they have to be fine. (they made their goal. it is an awesome project).
joanna chan
joanna chan@jxorange
Will little Palmer-Gaiman be open to accepting gifts from fans?
Faith Galvan
Faith Galvan@missfaithgalvan
@amandapalmer What's for dinner tonight?
Agoraphobic Feminist
Agoraphobic Feminist@athomeactivist · Writer
Favourite 'bad day' song/book/whatever?
Captain Kuromaru
Captain Kuromaru@captainkuromaru
what kind of vegetable do you like most?
Matt Collura
Matt Collura@arquemada
@amandapalmer Was the piece at the library about idols/celebrities using their status to get people to do the morally right thing (even if their intentions may have been different)? Cause like some people had wildly different intentions, one woman had her child give a book and that was pretty morally legit, then another woman did some self-promotion and yelled at you. In the end they both gave a book though... So yeah, was that a meaning of it that you thought of or just one of the ways art is defined by the viewer?
Pétra
Pétra@petra777
@amandapalmer Would you ever consider doing a house concert tour?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@petra777 done it.
Luna Pixie
Luna Pixie@redlunapixie
@amandapalmer With the impending arrival of the little one, have you decided on how you are having your delivery? I had a very rudimentary water birth 17 years ago with no pain relief! I highly recommend it :) xx
Ana
Ana@livinings · law student
@amandapalmer hi amanda! how's the pregnancy going?
Dalia Poudrier
Dalia Poudrier@d_e_phoenix · Writer Artist/Owner Cable Home Creations
@amandapalmer Do you have a any books/songs you're looking forward to reading/singing to your little one?
Bryt
Bryt@mizzreeloves · Nanny, self-employed
My mother-in-law heard you were doing this today and swore to hold my dog hostage if I didn't at least TRY "apologizing" on her behalf as she feels badly for making you tear up at the Denver Houseparty with Ondi. So, here is my evidence of doing so, even if you don't respond (as I do want my dog back!) ^-^ hope you, baby and Neil are having a wonderful week of new experiences.
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@mizzreeloves if it helps....i don't even remember that happening. and usually i enjoy tearing up. so it's all good, mizz.
Bryt
Bryt@mizzreeloves · Nanny, self-employed
@amandapalmer AH-ha! I have earned my dog AND a hug! This Tuesday is pretty awesome!
Jesse Colton
Jesse Colton@jesse_colton
@amandapalmer I know and @imogenheap know one another, would you consider doing a collaboration with her? Also will you introduce baby Gaiman to baby Heap?
Félix Marqués
Félix Marqués@felixmarques
@amandapalmer This is probably something you don't want to answer because it's a distant worry, but as a teacher I'm interested: do Neil and you have any plans regarding the child's education? Do you feel that public education will be enough or will you look for alternatives? (Before anyone starts thinking of this as a political/elitist thing: I love public and free education/healthcare/etc., but education is in dire need of reforming in many countries.) As an example of what I'm talking about, my sister studied at a Montessori school. Their method is amazing; it focuses on nurturing independent thought and discovery skills by teaching through short-term projects, storytelling, and allowing student choices in organizing the work (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mo...). She later worked as a teacher using the same methods and she's in love with it.
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@felixmarques i know that whatever we do, it probably won't be normal. i really hated school. i want my kid to be happier than i was with whatever we figure out. i was really unhappy and i no longer take for granted that it was me. i think it was the environment.
Félix Marqués
Félix Marqués@felixmarques
@amandapalmer I attended a very small village school which was pretty great, but high school blew. A lot of the education system just drains you of any willingness to have an input in the world. I totally understand.
Pétra
Pétra@petra777
@amandapalmer same here...we went the homeschool route for my daughter...I dont think she would have survived public school as she is a lot like me learning wise. Although there are difficult moments, I dont regret it at all. And its not as difficult as some people make it out to be. I taught mine how to learn independently from the beginning (and it helped that she preferred to learn on her own). She has freedom in how she learns even in required subjects. She has also had the freedom to take on piano, acting, dance, gymnastics, etc. We started fifth grade off this year with some difficult life lessons. My father passed away on Aug 1 & I had to explain things & prepare her. Homeschooling gave us the freedom to stop & live life in this time & be with family for as long as we need.
Amy Singer
Amy Singer@knittydotcom · editor, Knitty.com
@amandapalmer How long before you heard about Patreon did you launch your campaign? Were there months of prep involved or did you just KOWABUNGA in? I've been working on my whole campaign for months and we launch next week. Freaking out!
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@knittydotcom i planned for, i shit you not, YEARS. timing and planning is important.
Amy Singer
Amy Singer@knittydotcom · editor, Knitty.com
@amandapalmer the projects you've come out with since launching Patreon show a ton of thought and planning. the actual launch of the community, the levels, the rewards...that seemed effortless. which means you planned that just as hard, i'm guessing. very grateful for your example to follow, and wishing you only the best with your new wee bairn!
Kim Thiede
Kim Thiede@themostgrrrl · ECE Teacher
@amandapalmer Did you know that the fraud police frequently visit teachers as well? ;) Thank you for your book. Thank you for your music. Thank you for simply being a light in the darkest of times and an inspiration all of the time.
Andie Katschthaler
Andie Katschthaler@thegrumpygirl · Founder, Grumpy Girl Communications
@themostgrrrl <3 this!
Amonda
Amonda@treehands · nah
On your experiences with death, do you think there's a difference between facing the imminent death of a loved one and "preparing yourself" for it versus being shocked by an unexpected death of a loved one?
Two-hats Jo
Two-hats Jo@joannahagan
I've been stressing and overthinking what to ask you. My anxiety gets worse when I feel intimidated, and despite you being so fantastically open with your fans, it's a little scary trying to think of something clever to ask. However, that finally gave me an idea of what to ask. Have you ever had the opportunity to meet/engage with an artist that's inspired you and completely forgotten how to talk? (Also, hugs and good luck and good everythings to the bump!)
Aaron Rackley
Aaron Rackley@aarackley
@amandapalmer Will you ever meet Morrissey?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
Dayana Lisette
Dayana Lisette@dayanalisettev
@amandapalmer Whats freaking you out right now?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@dayanalisettev WILD GUESS.
Dayana Lisette
Dayana Lisette@dayanalisettev
@amandapalmer Well aside from the whole "holy crap a BABY'S coming out of me soon asdfghjkl" XD
Cristina Costea
Cristina Costea@sweetxsing
As a Tarot reader, I must ask: what are your hopes and fears for your baby?
Paper Lotus
Paper Lotus@awedjob · artist | activist | athlete
@amandapalmer How was it to dust off your living statue skills after so many years?
Claire
Claire@claireshrugged
@amandapalmer will the Jack & Amanda album count as one item on patreon, or will each individual track be an item? I would like to up my pledge, but equally I need to know what to expect. Sending love your way. <3
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@claireshrugged this is an excellent question and one i've been pondering. i won't be doing anything without discussing the options with the patrons, so basically expect that a longer conversation is going to take place over there, in patron-only posts where we'll banter int he comments.
edith
edith@psychedelicpear
Hi Amanda, great to be here as part of the ama! What part(s) of motherhood do you find most daunting (if any) and what part are you most looking forward to?
Kaitlyn King
Kaitlyn King@thekaitlynking · Graphic Designer, BIG
Now that mixing the record is in the works, do you find it difficult to focus while juggling pregnancy/marriage/life? What train of thought pulls your focus the most?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@thekaitlynking i've gotten good at juggling. i also know that juggling is a bitch. this is the reason i'm taking the next six months basically off, to JUST have a baby. i don't want to juggle any more than i have to - i want to hang out with this baby and not feel like a bad artist or a bad boss or a bad anything. i just want to feel like a half-decent mother.
Asenath Waite
Asenath Waite@asenath0 · secretary
Has Neil drawn you in an "Endless" fashion, and if so, is it available for purchase. (You'd make an awesome Death.)
Aghata Rayol
Aghata Rayol@aghatarayol
@asenath0 I imagine her as Delirium! *_*
kelly shea
kelly shea@kellyzeissshea
@amandapalmer I had also posted to the Facebook for you to feel free to also ask anything about babies and/or birthing... I know the whole thing is extremely daunting. I've had two babies myself... one boy, one girl; one via vaginal delivery, one via emergency c-section; one baby that cried constantly, one who worried me when she didn't cry. They are now 15 and 12. Feel free to ask anything about WTF to expect. I remember when I was 8 months pregnant with my first, I asked a friend who had a 6-month-old for advice... she said "throw away all your baby books" -- it's true, they will make you crazy because no two babies are the same. Instinct is your friend. Love you, Amanda. Your life is about to change dramatically -- it will be sad and happy and heartbreaking and joyous and exhausting and full of lots and lots of love. *smooches*
@amandapalmer You inspire, console and activate so many people. How does it feel to have such a huge impact on so many people's lives? Your book changed me. Your music makes me better. Your Ted talk makes me happy. Thank you so much. When you venture back to Belgium, you have a place to stay. With space AND wifi :-)
seriously hilary
seriously hilary @seriouslyhilary
@milkgirl I'll be there too! I'll bring my own blanket, and I'll make my amazing lemon cheesecake. (Heck we should do that anyway xx)
AlexandraSB
AlexandraSB@missalexandrasb · Student. BFA.
@milkgirl Me too! Ill bring hummus
Saskia Videler
Saskia Videler@saskiavideler
@milkgirl I'll bring wine! :-)
seriously hilary
seriously hilary @seriouslyhilary
@missalexandrasb hummus? OMG you know all the right things to say!
Captain Kuromaru
Captain Kuromaru@captainkuromaru
what is the best advice you've ever gotten?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@captainkuromaru "say less".
FUNPOV
FUNPOV@funpov
@amandapalmer this is the finnish way
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
@amandapalmer Can I send you a handmade hat for the baby?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@athenenumphe sure! there's an address on the website. send away: http://amandapalmer.net/contact/
Rachel C
Rachel C@rcorm31688_c · Chef
@amandapalmer What is your favorite poem and why?
jbparsont
jbparsont@jbparsont · teacher
@amandapalmer I don't need to ask anything. Just want you to know how much I admire you. Wishing you, Neil and Baby health and happiness.
Samantha Walker
Samantha Walker@samanthacwalk · Writer
@amandapalmer Ampersand has had a profound impact on me since I found it. Yet, I have one question on the lyrics that I can't seem to figure out. What on earth does "Eyes full of ketchup" mean?
JJ
JJ@jjthebohemian · Student, NAU
@samanthacwalk I might be wrong, but if I remember correctly, Amanda did some performing arts pieces in college that included fake blood (which can be made from ketchup). My interpretation is that the person with "eyes full of ketchup" is acting dramatically to attract attention from a romantic partner because they feel that they will lose that person if they don't command their attention.
Samantha Walker
Samantha Walker@samanthacwalk · Writer
@jjthebohemian That makes a whole lot of sense, and fits the theme of the song perfectly. Thank you!
Gilly
Gilly @poizonapple
@amandapalmer Do you have any tips for letting go of fear and being the most authentic version of yourself?
Sophie
Sophie@creepy_weirdo
@amandapalmer Was there ever a point in your life which you felt bitter/angry/generally hateful towards your role models/heroes, because they seemed fantastic and brilliant and all of these out of reach things you felt you would never be, whilst were still just you? Or have your role models been a constant driving force with no bitter envy involved? Also, you are wonderful, and I hope you and your tiny human are having a lovely day.
Ragna Amling
Ragna Amling@ragnacookie · Waitress, [b.gut.]
@amandapalmer Hi Amanda, do you have any advice about How To Get Along With Your Mother? I am German, studied in Glasgow for a year, then moved back to Germany to save money, and now find myself being miserable in Berlin. It's too big, there are too many people, and I miss my friends in Glasgow. Have already arranged to move back in with my parents to save up some cash, but I'm worried I'll never make it back to Glasgow. What's complicating things is that my mother and I have a difficult relationship. I told her before that I don't trust her emotionally, and I don't know how to make it through the next few months. How can I live with her and stay sane?
Also, I just picked up ukelele. Someone told me it only takes an hour to teach someone. :-) Which is the easiest song to learn chords with? Or the easiest tout court! And which song is your favourite to play?
Luna Pixie
Luna Pixie@redlunapixie
@milkgirl my first uke song was 'in my mind.' :) took a while for me to get the strumming pattern right though!
@redlunapixie Love that song. Have it on repeat. It breaks me and builds me up. Could only find guitar tabs for that unfortunately.
Morgan Amanda
Morgan Amanda@morgansatsuki
@redlunapixie it was my first uke song too! Actually, when I bought Kiki, the uke, I decided that the first song I'd learn would be it. I call it the "most Amanda Palmer Amanda Palmer song"
Luna Pixie
Luna Pixie@redlunapixie
@milkgirl there are uke tab websites out there, here you go!! get yourself started :D: https://ukutabs.com/a/amanda-pal...
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
@milkgirl Learn C, Aminor, F, and G7 That's the holy beginner's quadrinity - you'll be able to play like 50,000 songs with that combo
Bronwyn Durand
Bronwyn Durand@bronwyndurand · Strategic communication designer
@amandapalmer what would you most like to change about what most women believe about themselves? Has your perspective on bring female changed much since being this pregnant? And thank you for all that you do.
Gunlaugh
Gunlaugh@gunlaughs413
@amandapalmer Hey Amanda. I am absolutely in love with your perspective on the connection between an artist and fans (working through stuff like patreon and kickstarter; fucking amazing). Do you have any advice for new artists who would like to follow the example? How to get your stuff out there and create a good connection between fans and artists?
Morgan Amanda
Morgan Amanda@morgansatsuki
Hi! Amanda to Amanda: how did you recover from the depression on your 20s without meds? I've been fighting it all my life and even with medical help sometimes it feels impossible. Internet hug! (((())))
IsleOfAtlanticDreams
IsleOfAtlanticDreams@atlantic_dreams · Isle Of Atlantic Dreams
@amandapalmer How are you going to handle public-interest in the baby? Are you going to be as open about him as with anything else, or are you going to keep him away from it?
W.A
W.A@utopianwitch
Hi @amandapalmer! Could you make a "Top ten books" list that you feel are absolutely essential, that you loved and made an impact on you? Thanks! Greetings from Venezuela <3
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
Any weird pregnancy dreams? Mine keep involving people reciting Shakespeare.
FUNPOV
FUNPOV@funpov
My question is about Patreon but i will have to preface with a quote -- Jon Stewart at the end of his last show he said, "an artist that i really admire once said that he thinks of his career as a long conversation with his audience... and i really like that... a conversation which by the way i have hogged! and i do apologize for that... i should have at some point turned the camera around and been like so do you guys have anything to add (insert laughters here)" Anyways what you are doing with your art, how it has become inseparable from your conversation with fans, is so fresh and it makes me feel like a co-creator the way you open up to bring us in, as it feels more genuine and not solely about a product we're inevitably forced to pay for, but rather about a relationship allowing us to create inspiring art with inspirers we love, and in turn give it to the world for free together the way it should be (as copyright sorta kinda no longer seems to really work online) So my question is, if you were to create Patreon from scratch from the ground up tomorrow, what would you do different? How would you make the community more valuable and creative? What do you think Patreon will look like in 10 years? (when i signed up as your patron that thought actually went thru my head like damn this could be a subscription to the AFP for LIFE right here) ...i thank and salut you for your leadership and voice 8-{)
Suzie
Suzie@softheartedfool · PhD student
Hope you are well! I'm curious because I gave you one - how many baby presents have you received? x
piratelizzie
piratelizzie@piratelizzie · artist
@amandapalmer With lack of funds(aka unemployed) as an artist how can I promote myself to become better known so that my love of creating art eventually becomes income so I can put 'food on the table'. Thanks Love ya!!
Leah
Leah@leaushka · Sundance Institute
Now that crowd funding is becoming more mainstream, where do you see the future of artist support?
Sarawithanh
Sarawithanh@sarawithanh13
@amandapalmer What is your due date?
Matt Collura
Matt Collura@arquemada
Very excited to be here for this :)
OU Torah
OU Torah@ou_torah · Editor
(Please ignore this - posted from wrong account. Sorry.)
Richard Bunker
Richard Bunker@rickbunker · ceo, prescription advisory
I love your music. It makes me laugh. It can bring solace. It is fun to try to figure out how to play. It is sexy. Thank you for putting it out here for us. Are you glad that you do? Is opening yourself up to the masses like you do worth it?
Ceone Queens
Ceone Queens@cskieroe
Hey Amanda, I'd first of all like to say I really love your music, there's really a story in I think every one of your songs, which really gives a soul and personality to your music. But if I may ask, how do you turn your inspiration in to songs? I personally write as well sometimes, not music though, and I often can have a really hard time turning my ideas in stories.
Maria Webster
Maria Webster@mariawebsterpdx · WebsterTechWorks
@amandapalmer Thanks to a perfect storm including T. Ferriss' podcast and my subsequent reading of "The Art of Asking", I'm once again a performing musician. Building a deeper connection with the folks who come to see me play, however, scares me to freaking death. Any suggestions for ways to (ha!) *slowly* jump off that bridge? Playing is no problem; *connecting* seems to be the mind-killer.
LauraAFP Del Flowers
LauraAFP Del Flowers@lmissatomicbomb
@AmandaPalmer Hey Amanda, I tweet you all the time (Sorry I'm not a stalker I promise!) But i've just turned 16 (I met you in Leeds actually! but I was too nervous to say anything but thank you and get a picture) And I'm an aspiring Performer. Its my dream to perform on the westend and I was wondering if you can shoutout my fb page https://www.facebook.com/LauraRo... , maybe even listen to one of my covers on youtube? x_x But thank you and you're amazing and inspire me every day. LOVE!<3
The Smokey Mirror
The Smokey Mirror@mirrorsmokey · Singer, The Smokey Mirror
@amandapalmer I'm so happy to have this opportunity to chat with you! Haven't seen you since the Chicago Ninja gig. I'm so glad you got a chance to read my letter :) As a songwriter, I'm interested to learn more about your writing process.... Do you write the lyrics, melody, or instrumentals first, or all at once, or does it vary? Do you prefer to write alone, or co-write with other musicians/writers? What are some pro's and con's that you've seen with each method?
Elizabeth morbid
Elizabeth morbid@elizabethmorbid · student
I loved your book (and your music. it's gotten me through a lot). do you think you'd ever consider writing another book and this is a two part question, what advice would you give to aspiring writers?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@elizabethmorbid i'm definitely feeling the brewing of a few more books, but the last one slaughtered my psyche and schedule so compeltely that i'm not rushing back to the blank page. as for advice: i think neil gives it best. just write ALL THE TIME. write shitty stuff, write reviews, write blogs, write crap in a journal, but WRITE. don't sit around thinking about writing or trying to set up the perfect writing desk. actually write. this is what makes you a better writer.
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
You traditionally make my list for the old hypothetical "If you could have dinner with anybody..." question. Who would you put on that list?
Chirag Malkani
Chirag Malkani@malkanichirag · Specialist
@amandapalmer Hi, i was wondering if you write the lyrics first and then write the music OR is it the other way around - compose a piece of music and depending on the feel - write the words. My favourite band U2 tends to prefer the latter method of writing songs.
Connie
Connie@cjheeeeelow · Systems Analyst, UNM
@amandapalmer Do you ever feel like you need quiet time?
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@cjheeeeelow oh my god yes. i'm taking this entire day to just read and nap. i crave solitude sometimes, like oxygen. i am totally freaking out about this baby - but i'm hoping that alone time with the baby will kinda count.
OatmealSavage
OatmealSavage@mmacq · NHS
Are you not exhausted at this stage of your pregnancy? Yet you managed to stand outside the Library with your hand in the air so long. How do you do it.
Marjolein
Marjolein@tearsong
Can you tell us what your favorite happy/omg I must dance to this and sing along song is? I can add it to the Patreon happy bouncy songs spotify list then ;-)
Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer@amandapalmer · love-lover, hate-hater
@tearsong "the yip song". robyn hitchcock. never fails.
Bunny Bones!!!
Bunny Bones!!!@poptartkitty27 · owner KMS Consulting
How old were you when you first played piano, and are you self taught? Also same w the ukulele...what made you chose that instrument? Are then any other instruments you would like to learn still?
Luma
Luma @deadfishies
Will you be coming out with anymore published works? Whether they be art books or written material? Any more albums on the horizon?
Kaitlyn King
Kaitlyn King@thekaitlynking · Graphic Designer, BIG
Is there any chance your baby and the new record will share a birthday?
Raeven Tempest
Raeven Tempest@dracosprincess · N/A
Hi Amanda. I would like to say thank you for being an amazing person and such a powerful songwriter. Bigger on the inside is a beautiful song and one of my favorites. My question would be how did you come up with those lyrics.
Michael Williams
Michael Williams@mike21ray · Artist
Would you mind if I showed up randomly in Boston looking for you just to give you a high five?
CelestialBlueMusic
CelestialBlueMusic@cbluemusic · Kari @ Celestial Blue Music
Hola! What are your thought on home recording versus studio recording and how a newbie can get more patreon patrons....
Suzie
Suzie@softheartedfool · PhD student
@amandapalmer will you ever do a patron-only event in the UK? Was lovely to meet you for the first time at the New Statesman event in London!
JJ
JJ@jjthebohemian · Student, NAU
@amandapalmer As someone who is 18 years old and has very little experience in performing arts, is it too late for me to get started? I want to get involved in theatre and music at my university, but I'll be among others who have been taking acting classes and vocal lessons since they were in kindergarten. How do I start, and how do I convince myself that I'm not any less of an artist?
Aghata Rayol
Aghata Rayol@aghatarayol
@amandapalmer I would like you to know that you have a lot of fans here, in Brazil, and I (as all of us, brazilian fucking fans) would like to know when you are coming to Brazil! I live in Pará (in the Amazon!) and I would be glad to help you contacting bookstores and everything. Also, you and Mr. Palmer, the SEX GOD, are welcome to stay at my family's house (and your baby, of course)! Love, Aghata. <3
piratelizzie
piratelizzie@piratelizzie · artist
How do you convince friends and family that crowdfunding is good and should not be seen as shameful? When I did a go fund me my family was embarrassed that I even would do a crowdfunding.
Cameron Locke
Cameron Locke@clockework · Research Assistant
@amandapalmer do you have any advice for a couple who are too afraid to ask anything from the other?
Cameron Locke
Cameron Locke@clockework · Research Assistant
@clockework I mean, other that get our shit together. We're working on that. Separately.
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
Have you gotten to see Brian Viglione play with the Violent Femmes? I saw them this summer, and he was awesome! I came "this close" to catching an autographed drum head he was throwing to the crowd.
damianmasterson
damianmasterson@damianmasterson · Jester, Starship Enterprise
@amandapalmer Read and loved Dropping Ashes on the Buddha based on your recommendation. Can you recommend any other books - of any kind - that can assist in getting a handle on being a person in the wacky angsty happy sad world?
Angelica
Angelica@mataduvor
@amandapalmer can you come to Gothenburg (Sweden) and have a PJ-party with me and my friends? (Promise, I'm not a creep...)
Lynn Goodman
Lynn Goodman@seagrrl
@amandapalmer Have you ever found yourself so completely overwhelmed with life that you found it impossible to do creative work? If so, how did you get past that? Much love! \|/
Leah
Leah@leaushka · Sundance Institute
since so many fans come to you w/ their stories, tears, needs of support, what/who do you go to for that same support if you ever feel depleted?
Su Lorena
Su Lorena@su_lorena · Chemist / Writer
@amandapalmer When you firs found out you were preggo, did you felt some difference in your creative process?
millie townsend
millie townsend@milliebridie · Writer and Educator
@amandapalmer I’d love to know your wisdom on this one (it might sound like an advice column Q but I wanted to ask you for your knowledge!). I feel like I’ve already met my 'Neil Gaiman' - someone who understands how writers and artists need to live and would give me the freedom you have as an artist and woman (and understands many other things too). But I think we’ve met too early in life. We wish we’d met in our 30s or 40s or 50s, but instead we’re 25 and have to go our separate ways because we just aren’t at that point in our lives where we can be in the same place or work on the same projects (he needs to be independent after depression, I need to explore the world). So your advice on unconventional relationships - should I listen to what people tell me about finding other important people in my life and conventional breakup yadda? Or should I trust the idea that keeping sporadic contact with this wonderful person wouldn’t hamper any future relationships? There’s so many wonderful things we could do together, but it isn’t now. But life's too short to lose amazing people.
Sarawithanh
Sarawithanh@sarawithanh13
@milliebridie Always trust your gut/instincts/intuition, they'll never steer you wrong!
Emily McDougall
Emily McDougall@mcdougall_art · Medical Artist
Thank you for giving us all an opportunity to ask you questions. I have been in love with your music since I first heard the dresden dolls 11ish years ago. I think alongside my love for the music is a love for how dedicated you are to all this internet stuff - especially since The Art of Asking. I am the type of artist you described in your book - the type who feels not good enough yet. I am trying... Maybe need to give the book another read. I always think about blogging, trying to get an online presence etc but never do. A lot of it is fear but also the time it takes to put my words down on a blank screen. I am always so fascinated to see your online presence constantly. Do you have a routine for blogging etc or is it completely part of your daily life that you don't have to plan for?
Monica H
Monica H@demonicasj
Will you do an all piano album of Theatre is Evil for us Patreons?
Lauren Arsenault
Lauren Arsenault@littlebluebox10 · Secretary
Any baby names picked out yet?
Cilla Master
Cilla Master@cowardwithakiss · Editor
@amandapalmer My mom is in school to become a Domestic Violence victims counsellor (my father was very abusive and she just wants to help other people). She has a lot of PTSD and she is in love with you HARDCORE, man. Can I get a shout out to her? Her name's Sandra and it would make her life. HER LIFE.
Cilla Master
Cilla Master@cowardwithakiss · Editor
@cowardwithakiss @amandapalmer Seriously, no answer? Wow. I really wanted to surprise her because she had such a bad day. I love you, but wow. If I ever told her I did this and you didn't answer she'd probably kill herself. That's not an exaggeration. Kind of pissed, honestly. Fuckin' disappointed.
mercancebe
mercancebe@dunyalimeryjane · Graphic designer, freelance
@amandapalmer I'm not brave enough to be a mother. This is very scary thought for me. But I see you, I say maybe one day I could be a mother, too. you're always inspiring perspectives on art and life. I just say thank you. ^-^
Julie that's me
Julie that's me@julieduranie
I am reading your book now too. It is very inspiring. I find your posts inspiring. You are going to be a great mom! What a lucky child.
I Don't Date Psychos
I Don't Date Psychos@iddpsycho · Absolute Zero
When you disappear for awhile to raise your tiny human do you have a time frame of when you'll be back? Or just playing it by ear?
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
@amandapalmer What do you think contributes the most to succeeding in something you love?
romannosejob
romannosejob@holyfatcamp
What do you eat during a typical day?
Félix Marqués
Félix Marqués@felixmarques
How does one learn to create better metaphors in writing? Where is the secret magical fountain whose sparkling stream bestowed upon you the power of clever puns?
Blanca Horror
Blanca Horror@blanca_horror
Hi Amanda, this, for me, is a rather personal question and I will neither be disappointed if you cannot remember nor will I care (this one time) what other readers think of it: Do you remember me giving you a self-made black & white drawing on 13th of October 2008 in Beatpol, Dresden? :D I somehow managed to get to the first row and you took my piece of paper and put it in your dress. Have you ever had a look at it? I drawed you and Brian because I was (and am) a big fan of The Dresden Dolls. I put my e-mail address below the picture but you never replied. :P (remember: I don't mind if you don't remember, I cannot imagine having a life like you do). But when if not here and now should I post this question?
Mary Tracy
Mary Tracy@marytracy · CEO Widdershins
Hey Amanda. You seem to have an attitude towards your life/art of "I just do my thing and let it be enough". Do you have any suggestions for how to cultivate that?
Dana Heidelberger
Dana Heidelberger@heidelphoto · Photographer, Heidelberger Photography
What aspects of parenthood are you most looking forward to? What expectations/hopes do you have in regards to the birthing process? Will you continue to tour with baby in tow? What are your plans when it comes to breastfeeding? I am still happily breastfeeding my 17 month old daughter! If you ever find yourself in Missouri I would absolutely love to meet you and would gladly take portraits of your new little one. I respect you so much as a person and an artist. I can already picture the natural and inspirational breastfeeding images that I am sure will come!
Snarksy
Snarksy@snarksy
Hi Amanda. Long time fan here. Your concert in Northampton a few years ago was one of my favorite recent memories! Oasis just came on my shuffle, funny enough, as I started typing this. Two years ago I saw you and Neil at the bar at the Weird Al show... In, Iron Horse, I think and was so excited I went to order sprite from the bar so I could quietly eye you from a distance without being a bother. All of which is to say - I like your art. I like it a lot! I am a fan and am not here to needlessly attack you. But! I have a heavy question for you - What is your current stance on the critiques leveled at you and Jason Webley for Evelyn & Evelyn; specifically I mean critiques by disabled feminist activists in your fan base? People like this: http://disabledfeminists.com/201... I ask this because I do not feel your response in the past was really gracious or understanding of the genuine and valid pain your art may have caused to these otherwise supportive fans of yours. But I'm not here to critique that because I myself am guilty of lacking grace and understanding, all of us are. What I want to know is if your view has changed and if it has if you can publish something to that effect? If you already have, I'm sorry to have missed it. As a feminist and hopeful ally to all, I'm sad that people were hurt by your art because of its ableism when I have also seen the way your art has been an incredible force for good. As "able bodied" feminists you and I both have the power to be allies to our brother's and sister's whose bodies are not afforded the same social privileges ours are. Would you publish an apology to your fans? Or a current account of your stance? You received many earnest critiques in good faith from people who love you and your work. People who want only what is good for you and to see you and your community be it's best self. People who wanted to feel safe and valued in the magical community you have built up around yourself. You have alienated some of these people, and for some, that's irreparable. But for others recovery is possible. Funny again, as I close this, Leeds United is playing on my shuffle. Again, I'm a fan. I listen to you when I'm sad and when I'm angry and when I want to get my bravest self to face this world. You mean a lot to so many people. I am sad, sometimes, that you have unwittingly hurt people with ableist behavior because I think you can shine so much brighter than that. Sincerely, A Fan
Aghata Rayol
Aghata Rayol@aghatarayol
@amandapalmer What's he building in there? What the hell is he building in there? (I am still waiting to listen to Amanda Fucking Palmer feat. Tom Fucking Waits! Hahaha)
Raoul Duke
Raoul Duke@raouldukelasveg · Justin
@amandapalmer Hi Amanda! I know (having seen it first hand) how much many of your fans are intimidated by meeting you. I know that is the opposite of the vibe you're trying to send out, but you're such a touchstone and source of strength to them that they shit themselves when they finally meet/speak to/hug you. I actually had to lead one girl by the hand and introduce her to you in Bristol! Is there anyone you admire so much you'd be worried about ending up tongue tied and humiliated?
Brian A Ruddeforth
Brian A Ruddeforth@polyparents · Canoe Outpost - Manager
@amandapalmer As relatively new parents (we have a 1.5 year old daughter) and members of the poly community, we're interested in hearing about how other people choose to blend open relationships and family life. Have you had sex with anyone aside from Neil while pregnant? What about when the child is out and about, what's your general plan for being open with a kid around?
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
@polyparents I love being a poly parent. My son's godsmother is my husband's long-time girlfriend. He adores her and she adores him. My friend had a great rule, she said that she wouldn't do anything with a partner in front of her children that she wouldn't do with her children. We've stuck to that rule as well.
Pekka Astala
Pekka Astala@pekkaastala · Software Developer
@amandapalmer Why the lack of love for capital letters?
Die Reši
Die Reši@resivtp · Musician
@amandapalmer how is your theatre-writing going?
Brian A Ruddeforth
Brian A Ruddeforth@polyparents · Canoe Outpost - Manager
@amandapalmer What do you think of the Patreon facebook group? Do you give it a cursory glance now and again, or do you dig in and really read the threads?
PUNKJUNKNYC
PUNKJUNKNYC@punkjunknyc · maker
@amandapalmer I met you at Rough trade on #recordstoreday and didnt manage to get a few works out before crying like a baby... even now as im writing my mind is racing, trying to think of all the questions ive ever wanted to ask but yet, im drawing blanks & misty eyed. I guess there is no question... but just a thought. You do SO much for So many people. Thank you.
Bobbi G
Bobbi G@drgirlfriendphd
@amandapalmer Hello lovely! I've read plenty of times that you feel yourself pretty confident in your physical body. How has your relationship with your own body changed since pregnancy? Are you planning a home birth? What have you and Neil decided as far as public photos of your baby? I am really excited for you both!
Bethany Ivie
Bethany Ivie@princessauntb
@amandapalmer One of the things I love about you is that you are so confident in yourself and your choices. It's refreshing, wonderful and inspiring. Do you have any tips on how a shy person can cultivate that within him/herself?
Hana Belikova
Hana Belikova@hankabelikova · Assistant, Translator
Just a hi from a Patreon patron and the girl that gave you a cupcake in London and has a hilarious picture with you looking dead tired (as I am sure you were) and her glowing with glee. Thank you for doing what you do and being who you are. With love, Hana.
Euphorbia horrida
Euphorbia horrida@moonovernile · student
@amandapalmer thoughts on retirement? are you the kind of artist who is like YES ASAP or NO NEVER STOP WORKING ?
Aaron Rackley
Aaron Rackley@aarackley
Is the baby's surnane going to be Palmer-Gaiman or Gaiman-Palmer or Gaimer, Palman something?
Filth Elder
Filth Elder@ambbb · nope
@amandapalmer I mean this as a total compliment, but you aren't like other people. I am curious as to what "normal" things you'll do with your child. Will you take them to Disneyland when they get a little older? Will you go to mommy and me classes? Or will he just be traveling the world with his cool artist parents?
Meagan Elizabeth
Meagan Elizabeth@balive2love · Alive, To Love
@amandapalmer A dream of mine is to purchase many acres of land to start an intentional community (Not the blue, Kool-Aid drinking-type). A living community of earth lovers, bee keepers, birdhouse makers, love-lovers, hate-haters, bottom feeders. Will you come visit? *I need to make this dream a reality, but, how?* P.S. Best wishes for the new arrival. Warrior momma <3
Jodie McLeod
Jodie McLeod@toastykitty76
@amandapalmer What milestone are you looking forward to the most once the baby is born?
Sarah Best-Wilson
Sarah Best-Wilson@arunninglist · Principal, Sarah Best Strategy
@amandapalmer What's helped you get through tough times?
Flic French
Flic French@justflic
@amandapalmer Hi Amanda - I've just started a new job, in the library of a pretty prestigious institution, and I was thrilled to see that one of the items on the new acquisitions display was a copy of the Art of Asking (which I obviously immediately borrowed and is currently sat on my bedside table because I'm a selfish individual on occasion). My question is, what unexpected places would you most love your book to end up? Who would you be most excited to know that it had affected?
Sarah Good
Sarah Good@one_more_sarah · being awesome
@amandapalmer this isn't a question but i've wanted to tell you this forever and never had the insight to remember to tell you this in person at any of your shows - learning how to play the ukulele has helped me stop self harming. and a lot of my ukulele inspiration has come from you, lovely. thank you for being so awesome and real, it helps. <3 also, just out of pure and random curiosity because i'm a knitter/crocheter/yarn spinner and i spend a lot of time thinking about colors, what colors have you been attracted to recently? (:
Bernie Barrett
Bernie Barrett@bernie_101 · Learner Support Coordinator
My friend is doing a presentation tonight, he's doing a PhD and his presentation is essentially a synopsis of his research in to the perceived positive effects of psychedelic drugs, it's an awesome thing and I've been joking that he's a rockstar now. As much as a philosopher can be a rockstar... but. But. CAN YOU WISH HIM LUCK?! Send all your good vibes and happy thoughts? ^_^
Chelsea Bell Eady
Chelsea Bell Eady@chelseabelleady · Communication Designer
@amandapalmer thank you for being so accessible to your fans, including me. I was 8 months pregnant when you came to Vancouver with the GTO, and I desperately wanted to get up and dance! I am so glad to have exposed my son en-utero to your music. My question: are you possibly writing another book? I really enjoyed the AOA.
Cloudjumper
Cloudjumper@cloudjump3r · Composer, Sound Alchemist, Crazy Wizard
@amandapalmer Hey Amanda :) I love what u do! I have a question about patreon. I knew about it for a while and can't quite decide if I want to use it. Do you think it is a good way to reach fans and interact even if you have a relatively small base of fans? I see a lot of people moving to patreon that already have a big following and thy do well. Not so many that start out. Would you say it is a waste of time to engage in it head on so early or not? Also what are other thoughts you have on how I can stay in touch with fans better since I am not playing live much at the moment. Finally, I'm curious on your opinion on this. What it the value of the music / art we make to the listener? I am thinking about that a lot lately. Cheers ^^ Stay amazing, hi to the mini human inside you.
Jacky Schwarz
Jacky Schwarz@captainjacksn
Hi! My girlfriend and me love you so much and we would love to know if you plan on coming back to Germany in the future? It would be such a big present meeting you one day. Until then we're driving the country with a sign with "we are the media" and a link to your website because we want more German people to know you 😁 big love and greetings from Germany! Xoxo @amandapalmer
Bob Schimpf
Bob Schimpf@bobby_rockit · Ukulele Player
I started playing ukulele because of your uke album - do you plan on doing any uke heavy recordings in the future? I hear babies REALLY like the sound of a ukulele...
Serena Clara
Serena Clara@serenaclara_ · Musician
AMANDA! Found out about this an hour ago and it felt like the most perfect timing. I’ve just finished your book and I wanted to try and get in touch with you some how. I even wrote you a self-pity-drinking letter (that I might send to you one day; it is quite amusing) Anyway, at this point where I don’t have to opportunity to ramble on (much…) I wanted to ask if you listen to new music? And If so (or if not) Would you please listen to mine? Serena xx soundcloud.com/serenaclara
@amandapalmer Have you decided where you are going to live with the baby?
mixie92
mixie92@mixie92
@amandapalmer Hi! Are you planning on going back to Czech rep or specifically Prague? There will be a cake waiting here for you! :)
Swan Drsti
Swan Drsti@swandrsti · Creative
@amandapalmer what do you suggest to aspiring creatives are just beginning to own the label of anartist?
SuperPova
SuperPova@dantipova
@amandapalmer If you had the chance, would you bring back the Dresden Dolls for a second round? What is the secret behind your stunning eyebrows make-up?
AlexandraSB
AlexandraSB@missalexandrasb · Student. BFA.
@amandapalmer Come to my birthday party? Bring bebe!
Challenged Dragon
Challenged Dragon@jwyl · volunteer
Hi. Love you & what you do. Keep on keepin on... that said: I have been thinking about "lives matter" in the broader sense; women, size challenged, gender, race, etc... ever thought of doing a song?
Sinan (⸮)
Sinan (⸮)@ragamuff_in · master musician
what would be your sole advice to a musician struggling to find his way in the wasp universe of music?
If you could pick one song that everyone in the world could listen to, what would it be?
Swan Drsti
Swan Drsti@swandrsti · Creative
What would you suggest to a creative who is just beginning to own the label of "artist?"
Bryt
Bryt@mizzreeloves · Nanny, self-employed
I need some new tunes! What has you and BabyBunPalmerGaiman tapping toes to these days?
Dave Sewell
Dave Sewell@angelfishsolo · AFS Inc
@amandapalmer Firstly, thank you for being amazing. Secondly, do you have any regrets about anything in your life?
Amy Ropple
Amy Ropple@gotparrots5 · artist/art teacher, Reading, MA.
Are you planning to write another book? The first one was fabulous, like all your work. I'm a new fan and have seen you in Somerville and Providence -- totally blown away. Can't relate how much I've learned and grown from your art. Thank you.xx
millie townsend
millie townsend@milliebridie · Writer and Educator
Gilly
Gilly @poizonapple
@amandapalmer Hi! What song did you cry to during your first heartbreak?
Azucena
Azucena@azucena34 · artist
@amandapalmer HI I had a home birth, how are you prepping for the birth?
Amy Harris.
Amy Harris.@sculptureamy
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sunny sun ☀
sunny sun ☀@monika83
@amandapalmer what do you regret the most in your life?
Matt Collura
Matt Collura@arquemada
@amandapalmer Do you feel ever like you're prevented in what you would normally say because of the raw reach that it might get and the reception you might receive?
Monika Morales
Monika Morales@mirnavela · Mom
@amandapalmer If you ever come to Indiana, will you stay at my house? Our babies can totally hang out.
Andy Schwandy
Andy Schwandy@andyschwandy
@amandapalmer So Prince. Loved the Purple Rain GTA gig you did. What's your favourite Prince album other than Rain and what're your thoughts on his fickle internet presense and new material?
Yen
Yen@yendraws · Illustrator
@amandapalmer I want to make a donut sloth (salute!) and freely distribute it's love and cuteness to the world. Do you recommend stickers or temporary tattoos or...?
Lejla Bajgoric
Lejla Bajgoric@lejlahunts · Intern, Product Hunt
Thanks for being here! Anyone in your life you'd consider a hero? If yes, why so?
Lachlan Atcliffe
Lachlan Atcliffe@latchicles · Spaaaace Lawyer
@amandapalmer You've become famous for being an exhibitionist and free with your body. What do you get out of it? What goes through your mind when you're up there on a pedestal, clad in nothing but the stares of your fans?
mixie92
mixie92@mixie92
@amandapalmer Hi I also wanted to ask you about some of your fave books because I'm always looking for awesome stuff to read :) Thanks!
Agoraphobic Feminist
Agoraphobic Feminist@athomeactivist · Writer
Do I REALLY need to learn how to play the piano 'properly' before I can record music and do gigs? My knowledge is super basic but I have fun with it
jlgarciac
jlgarciac@chiquitosoft
@amandapalmer my best friends had their first baby last year. Though I love little Ian like a nephew, I do miss the old days when we could hang. Anyway... my question: Have you given any thoughts about touring after baby? I really would like to go to one of your shows one day in the future (I'm in Guatemala, btw. You did not have too many Latin America dates, comrade).
Susan Bee
Susan Bee@subege
When are you coming back to Australia? And do you know yet how much traveling you want to do when the baby is little? (In some ways, it's easier to travel when they are very young and not tied to the school schedule.)
Su Lorena
Su Lorena@su_lorena · Chemist / Writer
@subege Imagine how awesomw would be, to be home schooled by Amanda Palmer and Neil Gaiman!?!
Jasmine Ines
Jasmine Ines@jasmineines
Would love to see a duel show with Neil & you in Seattle. Anything I can do to help make that happen?
Ana
Ana@livinings · law student
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Christina Tran
Christina Tran@s0delightful · Designer, Daylight
How do you self-care when you are caring for others? In my work and in my life and with my friends, I hold a lot of space for other people. And sometimes I find myself burning out a little because I feel too much. But I love that part of myself and wouldn't change it. You and your book and your personhood have been an inspiration; just wondering if you have any extra lil tips today.
броненосец
броненосец@v_potemkah · Editor
Hi, Amanda, thank you for ama. I wanted to ask you if you have ever felt lost without any will, idea and desire to be found and find out what do you want really in your life. Stupid feeling, I know, so what to do? Go with the flow?
Nari Kim
Nari Kim@narijkim
@amandapalmer What will you think of next?
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@amandapalmer Do you believe kindness matters? I'd be incredible grateful if you could read it. :) http://suspendedcoffees.com/why-...
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
@johnmsweeney I love Suspended Coffees! I wish there were places in my area of Texas that did that.
Zach
Zach@zachmor89 · Historian
What has been the most unique gig/show/adventure you've experienced?
Maria Webster
Maria Webster@mariawebsterpdx · WebsterTechWorks
@amandapalmer Also, what are you reading and listening to on repeat today?
JayJay Johnston
JayJay Johnston@double_bluejay
Hi Amanda, I know this is about getting to know you... but you have a lot more life experience than I do, given that I just graduated high school. I need some advice. A close friend of mine, who i see less and less now because our values and hobbies don't exactly match up, but someone I still consider my sister and someone I will always be there for has gotten into drugs and recently has started to work as a female escort. I'm worried for her health and safety as well as her future. I don't know what to do. and I know you don't judge and have seen it all. Should I contact the police and "betray" my friend or let her continue with what she's doing. I'm just worried about her being in a bad crowd or getting mistreated by men or over-using drugs. I don't want her to wreck her life. Please advise if you can. <3
Katie
Katie@kateblue101 · Student
@amandapalmer Hey! Where do you get most of your inspiration? You create such beautiful things, where do they all come from?
Krista N. Dalton
Krista N. Dalton@kristandalton
@amandapalmer Do you have advice on how to cultivate confidence?
millie townsend
millie townsend@milliebridie · Writer and Educator
ps. I've always wondered - how did Neil get a US visa all those years ago? You must be very thankful for that!
Dianna Alex
Dianna Alex@ukesonfire · student
@amandapalmer you've spent a lot of time recently doing various projects in the hudson valley area (my homeland/stomping grounds/backyard). what drew you to the area/what are your favorite spots/venues there?
Mz Thai Peanut Sauce
Mz Thai Peanut Sauce@bloodlesscoup
@amandapalmer Hey Amanda! I met you at Occupy Portland and it was amazing! Do you have everything you need for the baby?
Serena Sorensen
Serena Sorensen@utopiaschildren
@amandapalmer No real question. Just wanted to let you know that your book woke me up and inspired me to start writing again. I live with Bipolar and it had become a struggle. I just gave up. I write every day now.
Danny Quick
Danny Quick@dquick215 · Building things where culture meets tech
@amandapalmer What do you think about Ryan Leslie's start up Disruptive Multimedia (dmm.fm) - which gives artists a "SuperPhone" to connect directly with their supporters outside the noise of social channels via SMS. Would you ever text with fans?
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
Are you finding the gendering of baby clothing as ridiculous as I am? I wanted to find a white nightgown for my son (due end of Oct). On amazon I found the EXACT same nightgown listed twice, once for a boy and once for a girl. The only difference was the name and that one had one more review. Seriously???
Brooke Telarico
Brooke Telarico@stbrookalis · B
How do you feel your identity changing as you get closer to being a mother? Do you feel like it's changing the way you think about yourself as an artist, are you feeling more and more that it's changing your relationship to yourself and the way you think of you, as a woman, or a wife, or a daughter, or a even a maker of things?
Matt Collura
Matt Collura@arquemada
@amandapalmer Are you going to set your fans on the Bern-train? Or at least give them an idea of the importance of the primaries? I really... don't want Hillary >.>
Bryt
Bryt@mizzreeloves · Nanny, self-employed
One more, fiancé was wondering if he did an original cover version of "Good Day" for his new stop motion short film if you would a) approve the usage and b) like to be sent a copy on completion.
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@amandapalmer Would you ever watch an Irish guys TEDx talk, on why kindness matters? Especially when you've never heard of him? :)
Casey Bottono
Casey Bottono@bottonowriter · Founder, Casey Bottono
Hi, Amanda. I'm a recent convert to your music and general way of life. Thank you for 'The Art of Asking'. Any chance you could de-mystify the picking pattern for 'Dear Old House...'? Adore spending my uke time playing along to 'Makin Whoopee' Take care, Casey
damianmasterson
damianmasterson@damianmasterson · Jester, Starship Enterprise
@amandapalmer any chance of seeing you record anything with Thor? The world needs more Thor.
Lauren Arsenault
Lauren Arsenault@littlebluebox10 · Secretary
Any advice on taking a GIANT leap of faith and doing something you LOVE rather than doing what you HAVE to do (i.e. quitting the 9-5 and following your bliss)
Possibly my last question. (Was so excited I forgot to think before I posted!) How do you feel being the inspiration to a (seriously cool) book character?
Ana
Ana@livinings · law student
i have to get ready for college :( but i really want you to know that ur amazing. stay free, stay wild, stay fierce, remain true. i really care about you and i know you care about us too. xx have a good day, amanda. hope you see me. (ps: what's your fave song at the moment?)
Priscila Biade
Priscila Biade@biade_pri
@amandapalmer Hi, much questions, I don't know if anyone done this before, There are any musicians that want to work with, but didn't had the time or opportunity? (bu the way, I'm happy to know that you want to come to Brazil!)
Yen
Yen@yendraws · Illustrator
Baby question: What if TWINS?
Athene Numphe
Athene Numphe@athenenumphe
@yendraws Since she knows the sex of the baby, she's had at least once ultrasound. Not twins.
Yen
Yen@yendraws · Illustrator
@athenenumphe I know! :) But I was thinking a 'what if instead', rather than right now. Should've been clearer, d'oh!!!
Sherry L Vitolo
Sherry L Vitolo@cordial_wheat · publications assistant
@amandapalmer I think I remember reading that a friend of yours taught you how to play the ukulele. You've done a lot of other beautiful things to share your inspiration and love with the world, but - have you taught anyone else how to play the ukulele? Just curious. Much love to you and your family and thank you so very much for everything!
Jack Abramowitz
Jack Abramowitz@rabbijack · Editor
"So play your favorite Beatles song...." What's your favorite Beatles song, and why?
Dave Sewell
Dave Sewell@angelfishsolo · AFS Inc
@amandapalmer What is your most requested song?
Andie Katschthaler
Andie Katschthaler@thegrumpygirl · Founder, Grumpy Girl Communications
@amandapalmer I would love to ask you something smart and/or funny, so obviously now I’m just freezing up and panicking! :D So, a more uninspired ask: Would it make any sense at all to approach you with something while you’re baby-busy? I am working on a project about mental health and how society screws us over by making it such a taboo topic, and I would eventually love to do an interview with you for it. However, what with paid work taking up a lot of my time right now, I just know I will never ever be fast enough to beat wee Anthony’s birth date. When should I best contact you (in case you’re interested at all, of course).
Adina Ciment
Adina Ciment@aciment · Superhero, Earth
@amandapalmer I heard that if given the choice, you prefer nonfiction to fiction, even though you are married to a fiction writer. Any advice for other people who are in "mixed marriages" like that?
Sam S.
Sam S.@ihurrdat
@amandapalmer Starving musician here: during those moments when you thought you could never "make it," what was something that pulled you through those days/nights?
Anthony Byrne
Anthony Byrne@antbyrneproject · Student
@amandapalmer I saw that you went to see "Amy", I haven't seen it yet but was wondering what you thought about the articles that find her documentary to shine a light on the way we treat female artist as "celebrity's" and on the flip side in "Montage of Heck" Cobain is treated like a tortured artist removed from his celebrity
Fine art by Jamie
Fine art by Jamie@fineartbyjamie · Photographer, artist, mom of an awesome
My kid wants to get into the music biz. They are 16 and a Junior in High school. (Phenomenal fucking talent) what advice would you give to them? What school would you suggest for them to look at? Also, Hi! I love you, and thank you so much for every fucking thing. The facebook Patreon group is my sanctuary. Oh! And what advice would you give someone looking to get their Patreon more traffic?
Mrs Peel
Mrs Peel@mrspeel
@amandapalmer Hey Amanda, what's your process for writing songs? Do you start with lyrics or music?
Emma Jean
Emma Jean@ejisnotmylover · Marketing Director, MC Artist Management
@amandapalmer I remember reading in the book about your struggle to come to terms with falling in love with a man living a very different (monetarily wealthier) life than you, and a very different life attitude in general. Any advice for others struggling to reconcile similar, seemingly insurmountable relationship differences? 3 happy years and counting so far, but I worry constantly that our very different attitudes and lifestyle preferences will make each other miserable in the long term...
Affreudite
Affreudite@affreudite
@amandapalmer Will “The Art of Asking” be released some day in French ? I can not wait to read it (not fluent enough in english to) ;-) Good luck for the baby. Enjoy the first months...it will pass so fast and it's so precious...
millie townsend
millie townsend@milliebridie · Writer and Educator
@affreudite Crowdsourcing translators!!
lesley
lesley@lesleyd · Project Assistant
@amandapalmer What's your favorite restaurant in Dallas? I've lived here for 2 years and am overwhelmed with options. Also what's been your wildest craving? Ps I love you, your work, you rock and are most awesome.
Andrzej Tucholski
Andrzej Tucholski@andtucholski · Author
@amandapalmer I got a ukulele for my last birthday! I'm playing almost every day, mostly folk songs and weird rock-covers. QUESTION: What song MUST be played on a ukulele so one can proudly admit that one truly owns a ukulele? I want to play it and send it to you online! You're one of the main reasons I wanted to learn this awesome instrument and I want to play some "thank you" notes :) Also: THANK YOU for your book. One of the most "human" experiences I've ever had with a literature. My words cannot express how grateful I am that you are around us :) Have a peaceful & good time with your family!
Jaime Thompson
Jaime Thompson@jaimegirl · IT, UMN
@amandapalmer I don't really have a question but since you are such an influencer giving amazing positive body image performances and just being you I wanted to say that I'm looking forward to seeing you as a mom and if you choose to breastfeed I'm sure you'll do it publicly and without shame and help us moms out by normalizing the fucking normal. Thank you for being you.
Erik Torenberg
Erik Torenberg@eriktorenberg · Former Product Hunt
What's the biggest thing you've changed your mind on in in the 3months-year
iScot Magazine
iScot Magazine@iscotnews
@amandapalmer When will you next be in Scotland, Amanda?
Emmy-Lou Billingsley
Emmy-Lou Billingsley@talentlessgay · ukulele enthusiast, nerd, adventurer
@amandapalmer do you love yourself? if you do, how do you learn to love yourself?
@amandapalmer I'm curious about your Wesleyan regret. As a person who now lives in Middletown, I will be forever grateful they hosted an Amanda & Neil evening. I brought my partner who knew nothing about either of you and left having had a blast and is now if not a fan, at least understanding of why I am.
Danny van Read
Danny van Read@dannyvanread
@amandapalmer Why Neil? The very first moment?
Ashley
Ashley@ashaudio0101
@amandapalmer I've loved you since I was a teen. Your music has always been a huge inspiration/outlet for me!! I just made a twitter account for this occasion!! Being the beautifully deep person you are, how do you usually turn things around when you're feeling down or at your worst?
Jennifer W.
Jennifer W.@_jenneryy · author // instructional designer
Are you loving prenatal yoga? It helped my back during my last trimester!
@amandapalmer P.S. I'm a Patreon poster who is wondering if you've gone silent or if this live chat has crashed.... Refreshing is getting me no new @amandapalmer comments....
Andie Katschthaler
Andie Katschthaler@thegrumpygirl · Founder, Grumpy Girl Communications
@capenkargher I was wondering the same. Maybe @amandapalmer has fallen asleep again. She did say she was prone to napping today ;)
Fine art by Jamie
Fine art by Jamie@fineartbyjamie · Photographer, artist, mom of an awesome
@capenkargher I noticed that too. (Also a patron)
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@amandapalmer What does it feel like to close your eyes, and feel the bond of a beautiful baby, inside your belly. :) My wife says, its like butterflies.
Brittany B Gaston
Brittany B Gaston@tsukidororo
Do you think you'll make music after having your baby?
John Sweeney
John Sweeney @johnmsweeney · Founder & Chief Kindness Officer
@amandapalmer Do you find yourself, being much kinder to yourself, whilst your're pregnant? Self kindness matters and people don't relise how much.
knøz
knøz@knozgrul · data entry slave
@amandapalmer will the bed show ever be a Thing?? i *still* have half the songs stuck in my head..!
Christine
Christine@meltinghalo
Who put the ram in the rama lama ding dong?
Baukje
Baukje@gompieb
Are you going to 'shield' you baby from the public, or is he going to be in your social media a lot?
Alma D. Cayasso
Alma D. Cayasso@candycayasso · NYPL
@amandapalmer I wanted to ask you about when you were writing The Art of Asking, where did you start off? What's one of the thing you recommend to others as advice when pursuing a career in writing?
KatherineMayWilliams
KatherineMayWilliams@kmwilliams · sleeper of sleep
@amandapalmer Is the Edward Ka-Spel thing still happening? (I know obviously you've got, y'know, other stuff going on (in your uterus/elsewhere) just now.. so understandable if it's off the cards for now.. but.. someday? Maybe? Uh.. please?) xo
Maureen H.
Maureen H.@msemmeheinrich
@amandapalmer any advice for a new troubled writer with some serious lack o time for writing?
Andie Katschthaler
Andie Katschthaler@thegrumpygirl · Founder, Grumpy Girl Communications
@amandapalmer Since this IS @producthunt after all, I’d love to know which writing app/software/program where you using when you were writing Art of Asking.
Suky-chan
Suky-chan@midnightwriter
Not a question: have a wonderful time and take your time to just be what you need to be right now! We will be waiting for your new things.
Kaye
Kaye@datinggod · Intergral Shamanics
@amandapalmer hello lovely amanda and tiny passenger! thoughts, feelings, musings about ayahuasca/dmt/anahuasca?
Eduardo Taulois
Eduardo Taulois@dudutaulois · Co-Founder at WeScribe.co
Amanda, how (what) do you do to be a better person everyday?
Dani Chalus
Dani Chalus@riotgrrrldani · choco brown eyes and the ass of an angel
@amandapalmer Hey Amanda, how are you feeling these days? If you could tell your 21 year old self something, what would it be? (PS- thank you for everything, you and your music have meant so much to me growing up. You've inspired me to be myself and take no shit. Also you wished me happy birthday during a ninja webcast gig on June 14th and it was the best thing. ;)
Shanna Burns
Shanna Burns@shanna_burns · Stage Manager
@amandapalmer I've gone through twelve thousand leaps and hoops to get to this comment and finally, it is working. Phew. First of all, hello Amanda, thank you, and I love you. Now, to the question. I am in the process of planning out the very fetus of a children's picture book. It's about a spider and basically that they aren't all things gross, scary, and evil in the world. So I ask, what would you look for in a picture book for the babe? What themes, messages, or artwork would you find most appealing and why? I want to spread love the right way; the way that connects to the most people, so, I'm asking them instead of guessing (although there is a bit of that too).
Steffen Siewert
Steffen Siewert@steffensiewert · CEO, airfy Inc.
@amandapalmer Dresden Dolls wtf, did you play 16th nov 2005 in germany if yes, i think i was there :D
Katelin Lucier
Katelin Lucier@acciolove94 · Customer Service Representative
@amandapalmer I've a quick question for you Amanda! (I hope you see me. You're absolutely lovely and it'd be hella cool to say "HEY AMANDA PALMER GAVE ME ADVICE") I'm a 21 year old that's pursuing an education in psychology that is now looking for a new job.. however, I'm scared that I'm not going to find something that fulfills my need to HELP EVERYONE (I've been in customer service for 3 years now....). What advice do you have for someone that feels a huge need to help others but (in a way) is semi-confined career wise (due to previous jobs)? Also, hi. I wish I could send baby Palmer-Gaiman all the cute baby things ever possible. (Can we do that? That'd be so fun). Cause I've been following your pregnancy and this baby is going to change the world. I mean, look at its parents. xo
Kristin Badass
Kristin Badass@vorpalecho
It must be overwhelming at times to be so inspiring. I often feel that I have no adequate reason to approach artists I admire, unsure of what I can bring to the table. Do you have any advice on fostering/joining an artistic community?
katrina davies
katrina davies@occufood · Artist/puppeteer
Hello, you inspired me to open my own crafting business. How do you deal with the days that you feel uninspired or weighed down and depressed?
Emmy-Lou Billingsley
Emmy-Lou Billingsley@talentlessgay · ukulele enthusiast, nerd, adventurer
Do you love yourself? If you do, how did you learn to love yourself?
Surami
Surami@_surami
@amandapalmer Hi Amanda, I have a question about fears. I know that you talk a lot about it in your book, but I was wondering: what you can advice to a person which is afraid to even try to take the fucking donuts?